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writes:I'm very confused by a girl who seems to like me yet has a boyfriend. We hang out occasionally and she never mentions that she has a boyfriend. The only time she has mentioned him she referred to him as "my friend so and so" and then asked me if I knew him. She does not know that I am aware that she has a boyfriend. I found out through a mutual friend. I am afraid to confronter her about the issue and also wonder why she has never told me she is already in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): To me, it seems that she likes you and wants a chance with you, and knows you might back off if you found out she has a boyfriend. She's probably clicked on that you like her, and wants to keep your attention because she likes you a bit too. Yeah, it's not nice of her really. Not nice at all. The first thing that I thought was that maybe she's a bit of a cheater.. Does she seem like this type of person, to cheat? But I think you should confront her. This little game she's playing with you has got to be stopped at some point - it's not fair on her boyfriend OR you. She's got to choose and stop being selfish.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (22 April 2008):
 Hi,
It's called fliring mate. When you are young it's natural. It doesn't necessarily mean anything, though I would say that this girl is being a little devious by not being upfront with you.
But if there are no hints at a more involved relationship between you then she may not be mentioning him so you don't feel threatened. But at age 18-21 my best bet is she is sizing you up to either have you on the side or to swap you for her current boyfriend.
If you are developing feelings for her ask her as she owes you an explanation. If you are not getting feelings then its none of your business - just be friends.
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