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writes:Recently my ex called me and told me she was pregnant by me. I was shocked, even though we did have sex months before then. I proceeded to do the right thing as I still loved her and wanted us to be a family. I started making preperations to buy a house and start the ball to rolling on our family. She called me and told me she was having pains and was bleeding. She then said she was going to the doctor and he later gave her the next day off work. I didn't hear from her again until that night when she explained to me that she was at her girlfriends house. The next day (her day off) I called and texted her and she never responded until later that day saying she had a traumatic night. When I saw her that evening I asked her if she was still in pain and bleeding and she told me she didn't want to talk about it and she would talk to me tomorrow. So I left feeling like she had secretly gotten an abortion. I'm just upset now because she hasn't talked to me yet and when I text her she tells me to stop texting as I am harassing her. Am I wrong for being angry with her because she won't talk to me about my child???
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reader, xxmissxx  +, writes (22 January 2008):
 well, firstly i commend you. Its a shame because you actually want to be a dad and have a family, she really should have more respect for you, not just as her parnter but as a father to be. You need to put your foot down here and tell her that by not keeping you informed shes messing with your head!
Maybe she has had a miscarriage or an abortion but you do have a right to know! Then once youve found out the truth you can then support her through what it is shes been hiding from you.
Im 17 weeks pregnant, and its all very well i definatly have a baby on the way lol, and the father doesnt want to know. So i feel for you because your a father to be who actually does want to know.
Forget all this about harrasing her, shes talking rubbish! Find out make her tell you to put your mind at ease!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Damn'r right kid.
She has no rights whoatsoever to withold information about YOUR child.
If she did have an abortion dump the bitch. Its not the abortion that bothers me, it's the fact she didn't feel you had a say in the matter of what happens to something that is HALF yours.
I hate women like that. They have no right to deny a baby it's father.
If it was a miscarriage, she may be extremely emotional and not able to deal with this successfully.
In which case you need to track her down and refuse to let her go it alone. In other words refuse to go away, refuse to yield to her demands to vacate the premises... until she at least tells you the truth.
Some women just need to be pushed in the right direction.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
First im sorry to here of your pain and understand fully why you are deeply upset, She may have had a miscariage if she phoned you to tell you she was bleeding before she visited the doctor. If she had an abortion I feel she would not have told you at all love, That is just my thinking as if she had planned for an abortion why phone and tell you she was pregnant in the first place.
No hunny your not wrong for feeling anger as you are worried and from your point as I see clearly also very hurt, If this is the case she may be feeling upset as well and at this moment not able to talk about it, Although I feel in time she should explain what has happened at this moment she cant and her hurt is coming out as anger towards you. I can only say that in time she hopefully will tell you what has happened, I am only guessing all this from what you have said love and feel very much for your situation and hope that you find out very soon so that you can start to get your life back on track. Take care with love and prayers mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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