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writes:K, so I'm just wondring why the girl I'm dating won't tongue kiss, and won't go past kissing at all.We've gone on 5 dates now, and talk all the time, but she won't tongue kiss, her version of making out is just repetitive pecks, which I'm cool with, I just found it kind of strange that she wouldn't be willing to tongue kiss (she did tongue kiss on our first date though), and I know she's had sex with a few guys in the past, but she won't even let me take her shirt off.My question is why is she taking it so slow? I don't want to rush her, I'm just wondering why she doesn't want to do anything other than kiss me, but she'll have sex with other guys.Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): maybe the stories you heard about those other guys weren't true, maybe she's nervous..
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reader, Blondie2792  +, writes (29 December 2007):
Maybe she likes you better than the other guys shes been with. Maybe she wants to take things slow to avoid scaring you off. She may have had a bad experience in the past and wants to avoid going down that road again. Just let her know you dont mind taking it slow. Hope everything works out =)
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reader, Signed-With-EyeLiner +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Hai there. Maybe your girlfriend has had a bad experiance that has made her like this? Im really happy with the fact yournot rushing or pressurising her which is the right thing to do. Maybe your girlfriend just wants to take it slow or has doubts about your relationship? I think you should talk about it to her. Reassure her that you love and respect her and only want whats best for her. Much Luck x
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reader, Amywiglet +, writes (28 December 2007):
 See there you go like i told you, the two basic rules are give her time and she will come round by herself. And never pressure her. Stick to this and you can't go wrong. I hope all of us helped xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): Maybe she is afraid of your relationship not working out. Obviously she is no longer with the other guys she had sex with. Maybe she doesn't want to give herself away again in case you two break up.
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reader, Amywiglet +, writes (28 December 2007):
Hey. This girl is probably really nervous and may not have much experience with guys, also have you ever thought she might not no how to kiss any other way besides peck. Plus if she hasn't got much experience may seem a little frigid because she's not sure how she's ment to respond to you. And if so may be afraid to do something wrong.Just talk to her and try to help her. But what ever you do be patient and don't force her.
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reader, mama2three  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Give her time. She may be holding off because you are *truly* special to her and she doesn't want to ruin the relationship by taking it to the next level. That does happen, sometimes girls have a history that they regret, and when they find someone they truly care for, they would like to savor the relationship as it is without becoming intimate too soon with that person.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Its 5 dates she probably hasnt made up her mind up about you yet give her time dont pressure her and dont rush into anything otherwise she will think your rushing her and only after her for one thing which it sounds like you kinda are let her come to you
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reader, Yos  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Have you asked her? Try to have an open, direct, but gentle and caring conversation about it. There could be many reasons for this, you may be wrong that she's had sex before, or she may have had a bad experience.
Whatever you do, don't put pressure on her to go further than she is willing. Show her respect and consideration and see if she opens up to you.
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (28 December 2007):
 It is very important you give your partner time, 5 dates is not alot and you can't expect her to go all the way to sex with you at such an early stage. Every girl is different and you should appreciate her feelings , she may feel uncomfortable with going further with you until she has gained confidence of the growing relationship. Perhaps she is inexperienced in some areas and is scared of embaressing her self in front of you, thinking you will be put off her if she isn't immediately good at making out with tongues? I would personally give her time, 5 dates is very little and it will take time for a relationship to bond to the point where shes comfortable 'expressing' her feelings through actions.Ryan
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