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writes:I'm 30 and have been in a LDR with a guy who's 24, for about 6 months now. At first he couldn't get enough of me. He'd PM me non-stop during the day ending them with love you forever etc etc, sending me requests to join him on the webcam as soon as I logged onto MSN after a day's work when I got home.But lately his attention towards me started dwindling. His requests to see me on the cam stopped and the PM's went down from being 50 pages long to a mere few words. I asked him about it and he said he thought that we are moving too fast. I then asked him if he wanted to break up and just remain friends and he said no. I then told him that if he wants to start taking things slowly, then we should start taking things slowly. He does still love me and he cares about me and I feel the same way. I've started by not seeming too eager and let him do the chasing...but I don't want to seem like I've become uninterested in him since he means the world to me. How do you start taking it slowly after a whirlwind romance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice ladies. I've backed off and started giving him room to breathe. And it's not easy but persisting through it =) I've also started communicating to him like we did just before we got serious but still showing him that I care about him and that I love him.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Great advice from Annalisa! Again, I can only offer this suggestion. Give him some air, and get yourself back out in the real world by spending some time with your friends. Sign up for a fun class where you'll be busy in the evenings at least once a week, do some volunteer work with people who are trying to improve the world, just get out there!
He's backed off a bit, you need to let that gap exist for a while, don't try to rush in to fill it. He'll reach back soon enough, and you can proceed with getting to know each other at a safer, saner pace.
Enjoy the thrill and fun of a new relationship! All the best.
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