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writes:Why I was born? This life is too hard for me. Only problems and conflicts. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): Although what you said is vague, life is a difficult and seemingly pointless experience. After all the pain and suffering we do eventually die.
But it's what you do in life that makes a difference. Do something to leave your mark, like teaching someone and therefore passing on your knowledge.
I'm not a teacher, and I'm not telling you to go into teaching. I'm merely giving an example.
If your going through a bad time, I hope you find someone to talk to you about your troubles. I thought I had done, and when I had done, it was helpful...
Good Luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): people are all born for a certain reason maybe you should try soloving the conflicts rather than well what you are doing rather well what you are doing ow but if you do not like that you could do some acts of random kindnesss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Your teenage years are full of changes, I'm in my 40's and had a hard start in life, single parent, no money, no partner, I struggled but through all the hard times which I thought were never ending, I came through the other side. It's not that I have no problems but I work through them. Try and list the things you hate about your life and attempt to change them - this may mean counselling, meeting new people, new hobbies. Think about the things you enjoy doing and see if you can make a career out of them, think about further education etc. Right now you probably feel unloved you'd be surprised how loved you are - look at your family and friends and imagine their lives without you then you'll know why your here. We were put on this earth for a purpose even if you can't see it now you will. I'm speaking as someone who really knows - your life will get better.
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 I am asking myself this same question couple of times a year .... but at the end
I am happy I was born, because life is beautiful no matter whats happening. And do not regret anything you have done because at some point, it was what you have wanted! Do not ask yourself WHY ME! too often, because than you will get stuck in your own lil dark world and you wont let the sun come inside and make you happy again/
Just enjoy every single day of your life and be happy for what you have now!
You have lost someone? Believe that they are still with you,even tho you cant see them
You broke up with your boyfriend,fiance or husband? Believe that there was a reason for this, and there is someone better for you than he was.
You don't like your body,hair,...etc? Believe that there is thousands of people around your area, that hate the same thing on their body! But at the end!You are perfect in your own way, and you have to love yourself the way you are right now, because maybe you will not change!
Do you have any kinda bad dissease? LIVE NOW! Live everything second of your life ... live it like you always wanted, dont be affraid of anything!
Live your life!!! And don't ask yourself why are you here, you are here, to live your life! Your mother gave you life .. now LIVE IT
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Hiya, trust me we all think this sometimes. Your still very young and in time things will get better :) There must be things in your life that make you happy? Talk to family or friends about your unhappiness?
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): I agree Lonely B, we know your unhappy. But we don't know why. Unless you tell us all we can do in spurt out thse gentle words of love and support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): My intuitions are on alert here. Lonely, is your question could be your way of asking for support and help. I am hearing that. Am I wrong? If not, please write us back and tell us more of your problems and conflicts, dear. Perhaps one of the wise, smart Aunts on his site can reach out to you and help you to understand what is truely bothering you...
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reader, babymamma626 +, writes (22 May 2008):
 I think the moral of every ones story here is.....Try not to get wrapped up in the questions you don't know and try to focus on things that you do. For instance, you may not know WHY you exsist but for whatever reason you do! So live your life and enjoy it now! We are a remarkable species you know? Be thankful that you do exsist. What would life be without a challenge?!!! What fun would life be if we TRULY knew our existence?
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reader, babymamma626 +, writes (22 May 2008):
I have an interesting theory if any one is interested? Ok so every one has heard the big bang boom theory right? And everyone has heard the god theories also? Well according to many different religions god is a jelous and envious god. Imagine being this ultimate being who knows everything! Wouldn't that be so BORING and extremely lonely? Of course this is something as us being humans would be EXTREMELY difficult to understand but just imagine. God is sitting up where ever it is that he once layed and continues to think about everything, about how lonely and angry he is and how he wants so much more and blah blah. Well this was all bottling up inside of him for so long and the anger continues to swell then all of a sudden he just EXPLODES, into millions and millions of pieces. THus...the galaxy, the solar systems, the stars, the planets, the water, the air, the sun, humans, animals, etc. Because God knew all, God is all...therefore we are are part of God. Scientists believe that solar system and the galaxy will one day collide back into eachother after millions of years of expanding so it will basically just suck right back to the middle again and CRASH-BOOM...God is one again. The end of life as we know it. This theory me and my boyfriend and some friends came across after time and time of reasearch with science and religion. But the "real" answer is nobody really knows what is going on so we can only imagine. It's just sickening how the world fights over something constantly that the answer is simple...we aren't meant to know. In our theory because EACH and everyone one of us and everything is god then maybe he is living out his anger through us but because he is enjoying himself (as we are confused and angry w/ life but still see the beauty!!) because he lives through us because we are him! LOL DO I SOUND CRAZY? Just think about it though when you look into another person's eyes you can just see the life and miricles. I have many more theories of course and I'm sure alot of people on here do...!! I'd be interested in what others have to say and think?! What if aliens created us here and brought us here!? LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Why was you born? What's your purpose in life - To take problems and conflicts and change them into solutions and opportunities. To learn lessons from life and become a better stronger person in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Why is life so hard? Give me a bit more information. We all have it tough from time to time, but the message is always to plod on and try and pick the best out of a situation. You only live once and life is what you make it, my dad used to always say, and alas he died when i was just 19. Let me know what your problems right now are.
take care
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 So that you could give us something to write about when you ask "Why was I born?"
And so that you could write wonderful poetry (and say nice things about mine - thank you for that message. It brightened my day.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): I wish I could tell you life gets better, but fact of the matter it doesnt always...for every happy day you have you may have 10 unhappy days.....but life is like an adventure in a way. You never know what twists and turns and what is around the bend. There is good and there is bad,ups and downs. But it is what makes the enjoyable things THAT much better because even if they dont happen as often as we want, when they DO happen its so unexpected it makes it worthwhile
good luck
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Maybe you were born to ask that question today, which then makes one or two or three or a dozen or a hundred people ask themselves the same question.
And then those one or a hundred people think about what is important in life. And they realize that even though there are conflict and problems in the world today, and in their own lives, there is also love, and hope, and charity, and beauty all around us. We just have to look hard through our own tears.
Sometimes the conflicts and problems are the only things we can see, because we are so sad about things in our own lives that we forget that people love us, and care about us, and want only good things for us and our friends and our families.
Then the spirits lift and maybe those one or a hundred people go out and do something nice or helpful for someone else, and that one simple little thing in turn brightens the day for someone else. And then the one or the hundred goes out and does something positive, and the effect of that one simple nice act has far-reaching results, as the hundreds of nice things turn into thousands, and the person who asked the question in the first place never realizes the positive effect she has had on the lives of others.
So this one person is going to go out and do at least one positive thing today, and I hope that you know you helped me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): How about rainbows, sun and laughter?
You were born because your mother wanted you in her life very, very much...It's a simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): It is whatever you want it to be. There will be many many opinions on this subject, and none of them wrong.
To love and be loved.
To improve human conditions on earth.
To be free from violence around the world.
To improve ourselves mentally and spiritualy.
The list can go on and on.
Many of our problems and conflicts with others, is because we lack proper education and experience. Education taught between birth and 20 years old, doesn't come close to what we need to coexist together. Many book are written, but only touch a very minisule portion of what we need to learn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): this question is retorical.
and to be honest i have no idea why your saying this.
we ALL wonder this at some point in our lives.
you are only as happy as you want to be.
ive had to learn that the hard way...
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reader, Teenage-Rebel +, writes (22 May 2008):
 With all the problems and conflicts you may have surely you have some good times and memories.
You may feel bad now but start to remember the good things in your life and it might help.
You could also try talking to a friend, parent etc. Someone you trust to help you.
Things will be difficult sometimes but thats life. Their will always be someone to help you and get you through whats wrong.
Hope this helps x
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