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30-35,
anonymous
writes:this is a thing about being self concious.recently i bought this gorgeous black and white dress from BAY.i thot - it doesnt look too flashy, its fairly simple, the length goes down to my knees and no boobs are showing and its quite fashionable. so today as u may no its very warm. i wore it down town with my sandles and a black bag.i walked down the long road to my bus stop. there were workmen across the road - only 2. n they stopped wot they were doing and stared at me. i looked across at them n kept walking. one of them whistled n i looked bak n they still looked at me. i got to the bus stop n a car tooted its horn at me. all day iv felt xtremely self concious abut wot im wearing. iv had people looking me up and down all day. on my way home. i passed a bar n 3 men were standing there.as i walked up to get by. one of them sed 'f-ing hell' n they all turned to stare at me. i had to walk between them. i was then so afraid of wot ppl thot of me i had to take a long walk bak to my grans house.at that point all i had to do was cross the road but there were more bars there with ppl sitting outside. i didnt want more ppl making comments to me. im a VERY shy person. i thot wot i wore wudnt attract attension.i like being a girly girl... im not into short skirts short shorts or anything showing much off bt i like long skirts and such. im very self concious about my appearance... wot could have been wrong? y would ppl say n do things like that? im nt a particularly pretty person. i thot it was all like sarcasim.. bt then i wondrd.. i look younger than i am. mayb it was all sarcasim? im 18.. mayb they thot i dressed funny for a 14 yr old or something? was it all sarcasim? the men ranged between 20-30. im too young for them to find me attractiv.iv nvr experienced anything like this before and to have it all in one day im unsure wot to think of myself? iv been depressed latly thinking im horrid looking. i dnt no if i shud take this as an ego boost or hide somewhere? i loved the dress... i dont want to stop wearing it.. but if i look silly i dont no wot to do.. i just thot it was so perfect.what could have made these ppl react this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): thank u for answering.i was just so unsure about what to make of myself. to have that attension in one day when if anythin i get glared at for the silly stuf i wear. im nt reli into fashion especially thru winter bt summer i like dressing nice.i thot i was mayb overdressed.. i live in a kinda skanky town.its all neds n drug addicts n old ppl etc.so i thot maybe i looked silly.most girls being tomboys.thank u for the positive comments :)
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reader, Only Forever +, writes (13 April 2007):
 Obviously, you looked amazing.
Being a shy girl myself, I know how you feel. Getting wolf whistled by older men can be quite intimidating, but it was just men being men. They see something pretty, they react like cavemen. As subtle as a brick.
Take it as a compliment, and hold your head up high the next time you go out looking stunning.
Relax, and soon the shy girl will shed away and leave a confident young woman ^_^
Take care, Megan
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reader, Zim +, writes (12 April 2007):
 It sounds like you looked amazing! I can understand your feelings as you are a shy person and don't generally want the attention, but I think its a very good chance that you looked stunning to the people that saw you. Take it as a compliment, you are obviously more attractive than you think!:-)
ZIM
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 What could've made those people react that way?
You looked fabulous, clearly. Maybe it's not a skanky dress, it's not too revealing, but it doesn't mean it doesn't look absolutely beautiful on you! I'm jealous, I wish I found a magic dress that made everyone take double takes!
Take it as a compliment, sweetness. Self-conciousness will only hold you back from being the wonderful person you are.
Rock that dress, dollface!
xxIndia
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (12 April 2007):
 You obviously give yourself less credit than you realise.
You maybe a shy kinda girl, but theres nothing wrong in looking good and its sounds like you looked stunning!
You cant control peoples reactions however uncormfortable they make you feel. This reaction was a positive one so feel good about it. You only felt aware about this because people were taking notice of you in a good way, where maybe before you went by relatively unnoticed.
I would take it as an ego boost and think nothing more of it. Take it as a compliment and start to feel good about yourself again.
Take care..
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