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writes:I am 19 and I've been with my girlfriend for about 5 months (she is 18). I have strong feelings for her, and she is well aware of how I feel and she says she feels the same. All of a sudden, she said she wants to "take a break". Her excuse? She says that she feels like she is a bad girlfriend. But she not and no matter how much I assure her, she doesn't seem to budge and listen to what I say. She is currently possibly holding my baby (to be determined on monday by doctor). I asked if that happens to be the reason she is wanting a break. She says no. If there is a kid, I want to keep it. She says shes not sure and that shes selfish and doesnt know what she wants to do when the time comes. Why is she trying to push me away? I don't understand and it hurts.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (12 October 2007):
Did the take your blood? You shold ask for a copy of the results and go from there.
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 October 2007):
 First of all, if she is pregnant there must be a thousand things running through her mind.
You may not understand whats going on with her. I'll tell you, telling her that her feelings about being a bad girlfriend are wrong, is the wrong way to go. She's going to believe what she tells herself, before she believes anyone else.
I'd ask her, WHY does she feel as if she's a bad girlfriend. I have worked with quite a few people who feel as if they're not right for the other one, usually due to weight and issues with their looks. What I tell them is It's not their job to figure out why the other person chose them. They need to decide why their with their partner.
She is your girlfriend, she should focus on why she chose you and not why you chose her.
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