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writes:I saw a girl for two years at work found out she was seeing some one else at work, so I wished her well, but I was very very upset. Time went on she was very odd to me even though I was perfectly nice and kept my distance, it didn’t work out with the other man. The ex I found then started trying to get my attention in all sorts of ways always turning up in work where I was etc, started being jealous of girls I worked with. But she never directly said sorry or anything similar I even felt like our two years meant nothing to her. This sort of attention behaviour carried on but I simply was hurt and didn’t know what to say or indeed what she wanted. In the end I couldn’t deal with it anymore, so I left and went working for the same company at a different location, this was 18month after the split, I told her I was leaving, but never gave her chance to say anything, even left when she was on holiday. That was all 12month ago, part of me has moved on but I will confess I think about her on a daily basis. Where I work now I didn’t know one of her best friends works also. A mutual friend in a recent discussion said that she my ex’s friend saying my ex was gutted over me !!!Why did she never tell me she felt this way about me, why al the unnecessary games and why now ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Not to be harsh but she's probably only "gutted" because you didn't want her anymore. Or at least that's what I thought. She's likely a "want what she can't have" type of chick and I'm sorry she's still causing you grief after all this time. But if it's keeps bothering you then why not just ask her out again. At the very least you can put it rest finally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): How did you guys end it? Did you actually have real evidence she was with someone else? Did you have a discussion with her about this being the reason for your break? The reason I'm asking is it sounds like there was unfinished business between you. I may be very wrong but I'm getting the sense that you suspected an affair and just walked away from your relationship without speaking with her about whether your suspicions were founded or if they were, without trying to figure out what went wrong. I'm not trying to defend her actions either real or perceived, I'm trying to get into her mindset. If she didn't have closure from you when you broke-up she may have still been clinging to your relationship regardless of what did or didn't happen with this other person.
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