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writes:I have been talking to this Spanish guy on Skype for six months now. We met on a random chat site but we video chated so I've seen him on camera. We always have good conversations, despite the language barrier. He always tells me how beautiful I am and I told him that soon I will go to Europe and we can see each other in person and he was very excited. We used to talk every week but ever since then, he's been offline and doesn't go on as much, I'm lucky if I see him once a month. The last time we talked, I told him the dates and place where I will be. He said he will come to see me one day but didn't seem too excited like he always used to be. And we didn't even figure anything out ie, he didnt give me his cell phone number and vice versa. He also used to call me baby, honey etc but doesn't anymore. I really wanted to meet him in person so he can show me around, and he said he would before all this so why the sudden change of heart? I will be leaving for my trip tomorrow, should I write him and ask for his number? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2012): I know what it is like to date on line. I know that some times some one will get all excited that you are going a long ways to meet him. You need to get down to the nitty gritty with him cause it is your rights to do so. You have all rights to know what he is doing and why he isn't excited with you any more. Ask him why. Also ask him if there is some one else. Ask him if he still wants this relationship between you and him to work out. Either he does. Or he doesn't and is just lying to you and leading you on. There are many who are very good liars. You have to catch them and know for sure if he is lying or what his problem is.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 April 2012):
 I agree with Tisha..
now that your trip is here, he's rethinking meeting you as that makes it all real... words on a computer screen don't' really mean much.
go and enjoy yourself and have a GREAT time...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 April 2012):
 You can ask him but don't get your expectations set an unrealistic level. You've had some nice chats and he's used romantic words but the reality is that you don't really know all that much about him. He may well have a girlfriend. He may have just started dating someone, or it could be a longterm girlfriend. Some people like to flirt online as a means of killing time or feeling better about themselves.
Go to Europe and enjoy yourself and try to stay focused on your surroundings and the real world. The cyberworld of chatting and making friends can be very time-consuming but it doesn't necessarily mean you've made a real life connection that will last, okay?
Not all pen pals tell the truth, nor do all people in chat rooms out there.
Don't allow this to ruin your trip, okay? He's just a random guy you met on line, you were looking for something and found a friend but this doesn't mean he's really available nor does it mean you've made a lifelong friend yet.
Have fun!
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