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writes:At first I thought this guy was cool and we could be friends. However I found out he as talking saying not so nice things about me like how I'm so into him and made me sound like a weird creep. He also seemed to start rumors that I like him. I do not but now his friends and other ppl are saying this about me. I have tried ignoring it but it makes me angry. Now evertime I'm around him at school or something because sometimes it just happens some of his friends will say things like stop talking him. He is more popular and has more friends so more ppl believe him and take his side. I have tried telling ppl I don't like him and I also have feelings for someone else but it doesn't seem to stop the rumors. Why is he doing that and what's the best resource help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): Next time they say something . Say nothing smile, shake your pretty head and walk away, it will irk them that they are not gettin the reaction that they want, and they will move on. Do not justify yourself. There's nothing to justify.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): The more you deny the more they think you have something to hide. Just ignore it. Because the more you let it bug you the more him and his mates are gaining attention from it. Just fake that you are not in the least bothered. He's not worth your worry.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 September 2012):
 Seems like he really WANTS you to like him and maybe he knows that you aren't really into him and therefore he spreads rumors because his pride got hurt.
Honestly, the best thing you can do is IGNORE him, his friend and the rumors, if anyone ask you directly just set the record straight. Sooner or later people WILL catch on, specially if you distance yourself from the guy.
It's not about sides. People will think what they want, you can't change that. However, someone else will be his focus if you start to ignore him 100% and stay away from him like he has the plague. And don't forget, it really doesn't matter what "everyone" thinks. What matter is that you keep your head up high and that YOUR friends knows the truth.
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reader, Kay-Way  +, writes (21 September 2012):
 There's nothing you can do to actually stop it straight away. You have to let people know that you aren't phased by it.
When those people say those things, they're trying to get a reaction out of you because they know that they can wind you up by saying those things.
When I was in school stuff like that happened to me all the time. There are three ways you can deal with this: lashing out, playing along or just ignore it. I don't advise lashing out as that would just make things worse, but I definitely suggest trying either playing along or ignoring it.
For example, if someone comes over to you and says 'Oh you like so and so', just turn around and say something like 'Oh haha that's really funny' in a happy slightly patronizing tone, or just keep saying 'Sorry, I didn't hear you, say it again?'. The idea is to make them feel stupid for trying to wind you up.
And then there's always just ignoring it. Literally ignore it. If someone comes up to you and you get the feeling that they're going to say something about it just look away and smile. Be ignorant as much as you can.
Eventually people will get bored and leave you alone because they know that they can't annoy you anymore.
As for why he's doing this, it's probably because he thinks he's better than you and is trying to put you down. Just don't pay any attention to it and eventually it will go away. However, the moment those people start physically bullying you, you need to tell a teacher straight away.
Just don't rise to them and you will always be the better person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): HE is the weird creep that clearly has something going wrong in his head for going around telling people that you like him when you don't.
He seems bit of an ego maniac wanting everyone to think that you/girls can't resist him.
Discreetly go to the head teacher/principle about this and let them know, they should be able to do something about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): He has an over fed ego and either he likes you or is an attention seeker, this is the only way this behavior would make sense.
It's actually common for popular kids to pick on the person they like because they are scared of what other people think. For example your in a group that he thinks his peers might bug him for liking you. I'm not in any way putting you down or anything but that could be the case, cause popular kids often see themselves as better or cooler then other people.
I wouldn't go telling people this though cause it would just make things much worse. I'd take the high road and just say whatever to people, and stop talking to this jerk, it'll pass by.
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