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writes: I met a guy I like a lot, only problem is I had started dating someone two weeks before. I wasn't sure what the new guy's intentions were, although he gave hints that he liked me. I told him I was seeing someone, but he still wanted to get to know me. Some of the new guys friends are "players" but he seemed different. A week ago his texts started to get a bit different and sarcastic after I had not replied to three of his texts as I had left my phone at home on charge. I text him to ask him what was wrong and he did not reply for a week, then said - you figure it out. I don't know whether it was because I had not replied to his texts or because he had the intention of having something more than friends when he started visiting and he is angry because I am taken, or angry because I have flirted with him despite being taken. I was happy just to leave it at that but he left his jacket behind at my house. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): I concur with the aunts here. They give good advice. Dating truely is a selection process and you were straight up with him. Sadly, there are some people if both genders who play this silly game that if you don't bow, scrape and worship them the minute they show an interest, then they take your actions, way too personally. You are dating a selection of people to find someone who is good for you. You owe him really 'nothing' except to be polite and I think he just got 'petty and pouty' because you didn't answer his texts, right away. Now, he's feeling insecure and rejected. This was a good move on your part because his behaviours and reaction may be telling you a lot about his character. He needs to grow up. As for his jacket..write him a detached note telling him to come and pick it up. Then just appreciate the fact that you already have another guy on the side, who I hope, treats you much better.
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 he sounds like an A hole pure and simple!
if he wants his jacket let him find the time 2 come get it!
dont give him another thought he wants you running around worrying feeling bad just for an ego boost or something!
it sounds like you were straight up from the start youve nothing to apologise for!and dont be made feel u do!
and also u can tell a hell of a lot about a person by the company they keep!
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reader, jack23 +, writes (11 September 2006):
 I think you will find you are right in what you believe. The problem here is jeliously! He is evidentally interested in you, but because you had not replied to his messages he feels rejected and wants you to care about him more, as he does for you.
If you dont wish to be with him trust me the best thing to be honest with him and stay away. It will not help him to be around you, it will only make things worse. I am talking from a little bit of personal experience, but have now matured past this stage so understand you concerns.
As for his jacket, thats no biggy, but its only fair to ask if he wants to collect it, but make sure you are not alone with him, as he will see anytime alone with you as an opportunity to try and win you over. You should also explain how you feel so that atleast you know that you have been straight and honest with him. Stand strong.
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