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writes: My husband of 6 years and I have ongoing relationship problems that get out of hand. On the surface, he is the strong, he-man type. Everyone on the outside's idea of the "chief" who makes things happen and solves problems. But when it comes to our personal relationship 24/7, he is more sensitive than a teenage girl about little things that he considers a slight or a rejection. This drives me crazy! He becomes "high maintenance" trying to resolve whatever it is I said or didn't say or did or didn't do to make him moody and grumpy. I need to add that we usually have a very satisfying sex life....but he always expects that I will "flirt" or "seduce" him first. Sometimes if I am tired or just normal, feeling good I just plain don't think about sex. So if I don't think about it...he sits back and gets grumpy. OK, here's the latest...two days of non-speaking, withdrawal, grumpy, sarcastic....because after golfing 36 holes all day Friday, I thought we were both pleasantly exhausted at 10:30pm and had no thoughts of jumping each other's bones.....affectionate yes. He was quiet all day the next day....did he grab me and take me to bed....no....he expects me to do that....take him by the hand.....if I don't withdrawal....I need a counselor.....will I ever get him to just be normal? Say what he wants....will I ever feel that I can say....Honey, right now I'm not in the mood... without risking a huge stand-off...and believe me he can get nasty in a stand-off.....then the real inner issues surface and he will call me terrible names....Sometimes he seems like a Jekyll and Hyde.
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reader, -ask me evry thing- +, writes (11 September 2006):
 well your partner likes a woman to take control but you are sick of this i think if you sit him down and explain how you feel it would help, explain that you want to be took to bed sometimes or that it could be a good change just to try something new and for him to take control. you arnt happy and you must talk to him. lv -ask me evrything- (beccie) x
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reader, rachyg +, writes (11 September 2006):
 course u can tell him hunny, if your to scared 2 tell him u want him 2 make the moves n seduce u back up a lil n c wot appens he myt realise n start or if ur 2 tired 2 have sex say im 2 tired, wot can he do he calls u names he cant be a nice guy n dunt deserve u neva mind the sex X
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