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*atrick72
writes:This is a post mark to is my girlfriend a player. When we first started dating when we have sex she would climax within 15 minutes, orally sometimes within 5. After December it became the time double and she became to incorporate a vibrator into sex. Now she wont have sex unless the vibrator is used first then it still takes 30 plus and orally 15 plus what the hell?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Don't feel bad about it-- I take forever to come (and sometimes I just miss the boat entirely!) But it doesn't bother me if I don't, since just penetration with my sweetie feels great. And also the cuddling before and afterwards. And the kissing ...Are you having enough foreplay? Deep kissing? in a parked car? Maybe try different positions, different locations? Ask her to share a couple of her fantasies with you. Bring her flowers, pay her lots of big compliments ("you're so beautiful!") If you can cook, treat her to a romantic dinner. Massages with sexy oils (my apologies if you've tried all of this!)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 August 2009):
 I hate to suggest this, but perhaps she was faking it at first? And then as things progressed, she realized that if she was going to enjoy sex, she was going to need the vibrator? Many women do, they're not 'broken' or flawed; it's just how they're built. They need more RPMs than manual, oral or penile stimulation can provide.
Another possibility is that she has become self-conscious during sex and cannot 'let go' and now lies there worrying about when she's going to come? She must sense that you're there looking at the clock and wondering 'when the hell will she get there?'
http://men.webmd.com/features/6-sex-mistakes-men-make
Maybe a quiet, calm, loving discussion OUTSIDE the bedroom will give you two a chance to discuss things?
Good luck.
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (26 August 2009):
I dont think that it makes your girlfriend a player . I think that simply she is requiring additional stimuli perhaps even just to spice up life.
I mean really think about it, there are only so many ways to have sex, you have to incorporate variety, and a longer anticipation for climax, not really a complaint. Its like pulling the sword from the stone, great reward come from great challenge .
-iydm
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reader, DLover  +, writes (26 August 2009):
I guess vibrator creates an addiction with some people, she might be one of those people.
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