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anonymous
writes:This girl i've just i started seeing i'm not expecting anything from her, but she is being different with me to what i've heard about her and seen her do with guys. We've hung out before but properly been on two dates and still haven't kissed! Yet she got with my best friend on a night out and he said she was really on it with him and they couldn't keep their hands off each other, which i saw. Also, she's kissed guys after a while of meeting them in a club or bar. And tole me kissing isn't a big deal to her, cause i know she has got with quite a few guys? It's just normally she's flirtatious round guys, but when we talk she doesn't flirt much. Except for sometimes when she strokes her hands up and down my chest, which is just temptation! I don't understand why she isn't like that with me or hasn't tried kissing me. I'm just wondering if judging by all this, are things physically going to go slowly? I have to point out i'm not with her for that! I don't mind if they do, but i can't help question it! And wonder why she's suddenly going slow with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): She likes you and thats the difference. Your not someone she wants a quick peck with and to move on.Your best friend telling tales isnt gentlemanly and maybe she knows what caliber of a guy he is but sees something different in you and thinks this could be the potential of a relationship.
Too many guys once they get what they want just get rid of women, and leave a trail of broken hearts without a care, and that can happen after 6 months.
She has a right to be carefull because two dates doesnt make you know a person.
Have fun getting to know the real her and stop listening to idle gossip and second guessing her past behaviour. Take people as you find and respect them and treat them as you would like treated yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): It seems like she might really like you, and want to be in a proper relationship with you, so she is taking it 'slow' in order to get to know you first before things become physical. She obviously doesn't think of you as someone just to randomly kiss in a bar and then forget about, so that is a good thing if you are looking for a relationship as well.
Having said that I wouldn't be too worried about how slow things are going, two proper dates is nothing. If it gets to a few months and you still haven't kissed, then you might need to have a talk about wether you both want the same thing out of this relationship, but for now, just enjoy the getting to know each other part. Of course, you could always make the first move if the moment seems right! (also, I know you said you've seen her with other guys, but everything else about her supposed reputation might just be a bit of rumour and gossip)
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