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male
age
30-35,
*ylertb91
writes:Okay so I dated this girl over a year ago for 7 months and now we text all the time and when we are in groups she acts like we are still dating but when I ask her to go hang out just the two of us she says that she will only do group things and is uncomfortable if we would do just the two of us and when I ask her why she says idk I just am. I'm confused any advice?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 July 2010):
Hmm. Well, there's something wrong here. I'd say that she's just not ready for a relationship. The truth is, at 7 months of dating, you should be spending time along doing things as a couple. As it is, you seem as if you're more of a pet who she takes along when she wants, and then leaves out at other times. To be honest, I don't think this girl is worth your time.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (12 July 2010):
 She doesn't want to pursue the dating relationship with you, it is just casual friendship for her. She doesn't want to hang out alone with you because that could be mistaken for proper dating. She relates to you in a certain way in group settings because she is familiar with you - you are her comfort blanket. By acting like you are dating she is sending a signal to others in the group that she is both attractive and unavailable. She may not be emotionally ready for dating other men, but she is not available to you either. You cannot force this relationship to be more than friendship - it finished at 7 months for a reason. Don't be sad about it though because it is nice you have both been mature enough to remain friends after the romance is over. Just accept it for what it is.
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