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writes:Hi,So me and my ex girlfriend went on a cruise and had a terrible time. Our arguments started when I noticed she would walk away from me when we were walking together. For example, we were walking to a the theater for a show and she walked into a jewelry gift shop with out telling me. When I reached the entrance to the show I noticed she was gone and didn't know where she went, I circled plaza level twice before seeing her in the shop. I asked her why she did this and she just said it's just something she does. Then on our first excursion she crossed the street without telling me and didn't even look back. So when we reached the fort, I did the same thing to her. I was walking away from her. She blew up, she said that immature of me and I was wrong for that. And I tried to tell her to chill and we talk about it when we got on the boat, but she said she couldn't be around someone who she knew had an issue. The rest of the cruise was a disaster we argued the entire time, and one night I saw her at the bar flirting with another guy. I was destroyed. She explained she couldn't be around me and was trying to make the best of the cruise. Later we broke up on the cruise with a day left. She said we were incompatible. Especially in regards to arguing.I talked to her like 3 weeks after the cruise and she apologized for some things. And I asked her for the photos cause most of our pictures were taken on her camera and she never sent them to me!So here's the twist- she recently contacted me cause she lost her keys at 3am and was panicking cause she didn't know what to do. Why is she calling me, what does she want from me? I guess my questions are does she like me, was I wrong to walk away (i think she is wrong), what should be my next move? I truly loved her and am just lost, I don't understand what happened... Any advice helps, thanks!!!!
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reader, rek +, writes (22 May 2012):
rek is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks! Yea I like being friends with her, I'm not gonna lie its a little awkward but I'll just take it slow.
and sorry for the double post...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Well if you can salavage the friendship and give her some time and space, who knows, it may go in your favour.
At least you guys are talking...it's a start.
xxxxx
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reader, rek +, writes (22 May 2012):
rek is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thank ya'll very much for all the responses and advice!!!!
- I talked to her yesterday and told all these sappy things about how I still have strong feelings for her and I really want to get back together. She said she likes me too but is afraid it will not work out and she just wants to be friends. We talked for a couple of hours and she apologized for the way she acted on the cruise and she said it is sad the way things worked out between us.
We agreed to be friends and we agreed to talk to each other about twice a week. Then she text me this morning and told me she really enjoys talking to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): Good points, thank you very much for all the advice!!!!
- I talked to her yesterday on the phone and I told her I still like and have deep feelings for her and I am very interested in getting back together. She said she does like me but is afraid things would repeat and it wouldn't work out... We talked for awhile and she apologized for the way she acted on the cruise and said it is very sad the way things worked out between us cause she really liked me.
Also, she said she really wants to be friends and we agreed to talk to each other about once a week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): So she only gives you the time of day and wants to be associated with you when it's in her best interests? She is self-serving. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship with someone like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): I have no respect for her - she treats you like dirt, but then when she's in a pickle she comes crying to you for help.Make no mistake, she does NOT feel any better about you. she treated you with such contempt and disdain on the cruise, those feelings are still there. she only wants your help now because it's easy help for her to get. she is taking advantage of you because she knows you still have feelings for her that will make you willing to give her help when she needs it. if there was a more attractive charming guy available she would turn to him first but since there isn't that's why she's calling on you. Ignore her, and don't think that this is a sign she wants to get back together. However she treated you on the cruise, is how she will still treat you eventually.
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reader, rek +, writes (21 May 2012):
rek is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice, I think I'll contact her and see if she maybe interested in getting back together.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (21 May 2012):
Sounds like she pretty much killed the relationship when you were on the cruise together, so the split was inevitable...
She has turned to you in a time of crisis (not much of a crisis but a crisis none the less) It looks like she just needed a helping hand and it's not unusual for people to turn to their ex when they don;t know what to do.
You could use the opportunity to see if there is still hope to salvage things but perhaps don't pin all your hopes on it or you may end up being hurt all over again.
The best thing to do is just ask her ' Do you think it's worth giving things another shot'...
She can only say yes or no.
If she does say no, tell her you'd rather she didn't contact you again so you can forget her and move on.
Best of luck xxx
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