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writes:I have been going out with this girl for 5-6 months now. I like her a lot and she likes me too. My friends and family know about her and she has met them all. But she has not told her family and friends about me and they do not know that we are together. I do everything for her and just got her an expensive gift for valentines. We are going out on Valentine's eve as she wants to spend Valentines day out with her parents. I asked her why she is doing this and she keep avoiding the issue and says not to talk about this now and she gets upset and angry when I do? I need some perspective about this. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lisa206  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 Respect her space.
When she is ready to tell you what is going on, she will.
Be an open receptacle. She is under enough pressure without dealing with you.
Be a gentle understanding place for her to land.
Maybe her parents are circus freaks.
Maybe they fart & burp and cuss so she doesn't want to be embarrased.
You have been part of her like for 5-6 months. So that's like .016 percent of her life if she is 30 years (360 months old)
Maybe it has nothing to do with you.
Maybe they would put poison in your food so you will stop bothering their beautiful daughter.
Maybe after you take her out to a nice valentine's dinner she will tell you.
Stop asking. Nothing is more annoying than a yappy little dog that won't shut up.
What is so important about her parents recognizing you as her boyfriend? Are you proposing?
Chill out
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (12 February 2011):
It could be anything. She can be worried about telling her family and then breaking up with you. (For the reputation thing). Or she could be dating someone else. With that little information I don't reckon we can help you.
I guess the better you can do is give her more time and then force her to discuss that issue. If there is a reason for not meeting her family, your have the right to know about it.
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reader, phoenix69  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 My ex did the same thing we are gay but that dont matter there could be somethings shes not telling you about herself or her or she maybe a little worried on how they would react maybe you are not what they would like. Does she have another boyfriend THERE are so many reasons why 5 or 6 months try 1 year then if it still happens then have a long talk with her and if she is still hideing you then time to pop out of a tree. For me I invited his family over for super with out him knowing at first it was awkward but then things were fine...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): I think that maybe her family might be either strict,over protective or to judgemental. I think 6 months is way to early to meet families friends r fine cause they realy don't care but families might get the wrong idea they probably think you guys are about to get engaged and she's probably not ready for that yet. I realy wouldn't rush her to introduce u guys let her do it when she's ready. Wait until u guys r realy seriuose. Her family might be the realy negative type and she knows that so she doesn't want to go through that cause she does realy like u and she doesn't want to hear them talk about in any bad way. Trust me there's a lot of families like that out there.
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