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writes:i had this best friend for many months now, and she never fail to cheer me up whenever im down. we could tell each other everything. however just recently, i started to develop feelings for her. everyday it got stronger and stronger and i guess it was mind that played tricks with me too cus i kinda felt that maybe she liked me too. so i summoned all my courage and told her i like her, and he told me she needed time to process it. i was very happy at that moment as it meant that i still had a chance and i was literally smiling the whole day. the next day, i sent her a text message saying in detail as to why i like her. but to my utter dismay, she replied me by aking me to stop that and that it makes her feel unfortable. after that, i told her i understand and if she wanted to, i would pretend i didnt tell her anything and we would remain best friends. her exact reply was "yeah, that would be nice :)"but after that, whenever we pass each other in school, she would either face away from me or talk to her friend and pretend not to see me. this went on for a few days now and it hasnt gotten any better. but occasionally i would text her and ask if she wanted to go home together like we always did before and her replies were normal and still as friendly as before.when i think of all the good memories we had together as friends, i really blame myself for letting my emotions get the better of me and i really want to salvage this friendship :(so what do you think i should do to make her feel less awkward around me? and how can i salvage this friendship?
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (26 August 2011):
 You were friends and she was happy with that. When you asked her she didn't feel the same way. That's why she became distant, angry, offish etc. Let time go by now and see if the friends thing can work again. You obviously dont want just that though. Friends sucks when you fancy someone. But if you can get used to that again then be friends. Just learn from this in the future and dont tell a girl your feelings straight out like this. your text message to her was not a good move as you had already told her and the fact she stalled for time meant she didn't want a relationship. In future, let things build up with a girl and let things develop without telling how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): How would the answers to this question change if instead i had just told my best friend that i liked HER? Because that is what I really meant to say. I am the OP
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