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writes:Me and my other half have been together for 6 years, the last couple of months its become a little rocky. we haven't had sex in around 5 months. a couple of nights I have woken up to him touching me and kissing me. HES ASLEEP, only problem is when I try to have sex with him he doesn't want it ( when we are both awake ) SO it worries me to think he might not even be dreaming about me :( anyone else had this? ive woken a few times with his hands down my pants.. please note, he is not a nasty man, I love him dearly but this upsets me
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 May 2016):
 He could have sexual dreams about other women even if you were still sexually very active ! Dreams are not conscious and not rational, they are just the transposition in symbols of what's going on deep down in our psyche. You can't make yourself dream only what is proper and correct.
I think it's pretty normal and standard for a healthy young man who's not been having sex since a few months, to have vivid sexual dreams, whether they are about you or about another person.
The problem,actually, would be why he has not had sex in 5 months. Any idea ? Have you been arguing a lot ? Is he mad at you ? Is he stressed out, working too much, having money worries ? Is it all Ok with his health ?...
What does he say when he rejects you, what's his reason ( or excuse ? ) ... You must have some idea about why, if you live together,no ?
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reader, mintrablooms +, writes (2 May 2016):
I think you should really talk to him. Just ask him to please be honest with you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 May 2016):
 Okay, he might have his reason why he doesn't want sex. Maybe tiredness, stress, loss of libido, or ill health that contributes to erectile dysfunction. He can't just keep the issue under the rug, as if your needs don't matter. A young guy with a healthy libido would not go without sex for 5 months with a willing partner, even if he's drooling over someone else. You need to have an honest talk and find out what his problem is. Have you become like a roommate situation? Is his love still there?
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