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writes: I've broke off with my ex of two years relationship(who is a girl as well) four years ago but till now I still think of her everyday. Though there are guys chasing after me but i can't commit to a relationship anymore because it will remind me of my ex and it makes me hurt. I'd still longing to love and to be loved but i just can't forget my ex even though she said something bad to me before. I just don't understand myself how come I can love someone so deep. I also don't understand why others can move on and start a new relationship after breaking up but I can't. I just wanna know why my love for her so deep and how to let go of her? Thank you in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): This is no expect opinion at all but I think people can take a long time when there is something they can't accept about the breakup. Maybe there is some kind of unresolved issue that caused you guys to break up?
If you were more deeply in love with her than she was with you, do you think that you are finding that difficult to come to terms with? Perhaps you can't get over that she did not share the same feelings as you and so you have been unable to come to terms with that loss and more importantly, a feeling of feeling inferior?
This is only a guess, only you know the answers but usually problems that we exhibit in the present are caused by negative past memories that become repressed making them difficult to analyse and find closure. Have you thought about talking to a counselor? If you bring this problem to them they may be able to you see what is causing you to not let go. Good luck to you ok :)
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