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writes: sorry but this is a long one but i need to get it off my chest and see what people think is going on Right ive recently got back together with my childhood sweetheart even though im only 20 and i say back together, but she always changes the subject when i ask her. We've been seeing each other for about a month and at first things went well we were seeing each other every other nite and in the first week we slept together but as soon as we did things changed she hardly gets hold of me any more doesnt answer my calls. I went round their about a week ago cuz i was worried about her and she told me that shes going through rough times its the anniversary of her mates death, phone companys are clawing at her for money which she doesnt have, shes in debt by about £5000 for her car but all i want is to be there for her! She tells me she just wants some space but I'm not so sure shes telling me everything She says she loves me to death but doesnt really show it. I'm the indoors type who just likes to have quiet nites most of the time... she likes to party i think but i just want to be with her. You know its true love when you cant get a person out of your head for a minute and as i said she says she feels the same but i hardly ever hear from her. I dont know what to do. I cant stand it anymore and she wont let me in her life at all at the moment. Shes got time for all of her friends but not me even though she says she loves me. I cant stand being away form her but if i know things will get back to normal eventually it will. I sent her some flowers tonight and some chocolates with a nice card just to say i love her but i havnt heard from her yet.I love her and I cant see that she loves me when she doesnt get hold of me return my txts or answer my call.s Anyway whats your opinions on this i really need some help
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reader, ur friend who else!  +, writes (4 February 2011):
Every girlfriend will get to being unresponsive , one day or the other, sooner or later............
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reader, midgetgem +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Hi mikezcarz.
I've just read your problem and hope I can help. When you've known somebody for a long time as you've know this girl it's really difficult when your relationship changes direction.
She might be finding it hard to deal with being with someone whe's always known as a friend and suddenly has strong feelings for.
On top of this she sounds like she's got a lot of other personal problems which she's dealing with by partying with her female friends.
A relationship at the moment may be more than she can deal with and that may be why she's not responding to you in the way that you'd hope.
However, you have your friendship to build on and the feelings you both have. Let her know that you're there for her whatever happens.
Let her know that you're there and that you care for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): Actions speak loudly. Anyone can toss about the words of love; but it is how they act that truly tells of how they feel.
I think it's time to tell her how you feel. Know that if her life is out of control; she is using the party life as a means of escape.
In the end; I think it is time to move on.
Take time to heal and you will love again.
Everyone needs a loving, responsive, caring, considerate, reliable, honest person in their lives who will love them and be what they want and need.
Best of wishes.
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