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writes:I have been friends with this guy for a few years. A few months ago he began living with this girl, and still together. They seem to get on very well.She often smiles at me, which I can accept(I get that often from girls, especially when their other half are not looking). What I cannot understand is that in front of him, she is overly friendly to me. E.g. if she hasn't seen me for a bit she tells me how much she missed me, reminding me the next day again, asking me if I know how much she missed me. All, right in front of her boy friend.I have no intention of having anything with her, but interested to know why she would do this? Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (11 June 2014):
She wants a threesome at that exact moment. Make it happen!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 June 2014):
 I agree she is just overly friendly. Do Not read anything else into this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): I think it could be that she's slightly crushing on you, and you make her feel a little nervous.
I believe she wants to be liked by you and all his friends. Some people just need the approval and acceptance. She may not mean anything more than she likes you; and she isn't doing it behind her boyfriend's back; because she isn't up to anything. If he doesn't have a problem with it, why should you? You're reading too much into it. That's why.
Maybe they have enough trust between them; there is no reason he should feel insecure. You're probably fun to be around and a cool guy, and they both enjoy your company. It could be as simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): Some people are just like that with close friends of their partner's, it's more a platitude than anything, OP.
Maybe you don't have that many friends and she wants to make you feel needed and respected or something. It's nothing sinister or suspicious some people are just like that.
I bet she's the type that gives massive hugs out to all her close friends like she hasn't them in years when she was only with them last week. Some people can be over the top in that way but it's just their personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): You're seeing something that isn't there. I have plenty of female friends that behave like this. All it is is that they're very friendly to people. They would often link their arms in mines or jump on my back for a Piggie ride. I have one friend who doesn't understand that guys perceive this kind of behavior in a different way. One guy who she use to hang out with all the time, laughing with, hugging with, basically being herself. He tried to ask her out but she said she didn't feel the same way. I had to explain to her that as a guy, we tend to see her behavior in a different light. She said she was just being nice and really didn't mean for him to take it that way.
The fact that the girl does it in front of her boyfriend says that she doesn't have anything to hide. Both her and her boyfriend knows there's nothing else to it. You're the only one reading too much into her actions. Unless she comes right out and says she wants you, you should discard any thoughts of her being interested in you. Her personality is that of a happy-going, carefree individual. Also, the fact that you have pointed out several women eyeing you when their bfs aren't looking has clouded your mind into thinking EVERY girl who is nice to you MUST be hitting on you. Remove those rosy shades and see it for what it really is; a girl being herself (nice).
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (11 June 2014):
 She's friendly, she is a friendly person, she like to let people know she cares about them because she is a friendly person .... maybe she learnt this from her mother, but surely, even Blind Freddie could see that if she is doing this in front of her boyfriend it is nothing but friendliness.
Stop trying to read anything else into it.
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