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writes:I have a friend whom I know from 2 months and we became close in a very short while... From few weeks he is touching my sides, hips and breast. What does this mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 February 2017):
 honey don't allow guys to think they can grope you whenever and wherever they please. Stand up for yourself and say no that it is not acceptable to touch you sexually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2017): It means that he's a pervert and has scant respect for girls. He does not care about your feelings or emotions. He just wants to have sex for fun. He wouldn't give to hoots to have a relationship, make you happy, put in efforts, or invest money on you. He will not marry you. Even if he does marry you, he's not the kind who will respect you or be loyal to you. His mind is spoilt with ideas shown in porn and he would probably keep groping and hooking up with other women while pretending to love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2017): It seems as though you may like him, and you were hoping letting him touch you would make him like you more.
You must only allow men to treat you respectfully and with tenderness. You don't allow touching until a man has expressed to you that he wishes to be with you and only you. He should not touch you until you give him permission when and where he can touch you.
Maybe your parents have neglected to teach you how a man must conduct himself around you. Your parents, both mother and father, should have taught you how a lady should want to be treated. It is not appropriate for man to touch you as he has. You should now discontinue the friendship. He is not interested in anything serious, or even friendship. He wants sex, then he will discard you. He will have no respect for you, and men like that usually tell everyone what he did to you. He will embarrass you publicly. That is what men like that do to women in your culture.
Kick his ass to the curb, and never speak to him again!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 February 2017):
 What does it mean?
That he is NOT a friend and NOT being respectful.
You have only known him 2 months so he isn't a REALLY good friend (and even if he was he shouldn't be touching you like this).
He is testing YOUR boundaries. GROPING you.
If he was a total stranger would you think it was OK? My guess is no, so don't let this guy you BARELY know do it either.
He knows you are either VERY naive and inexperienced or very unsure of what to do.
So next time he touches you, tell him to keep his hands to himself. If he doesn't stop you might want to consider not having him as a friend.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (18 February 2017):
 Uncle Wise has said pretty much what I was about to. First of all, you can't possibly be that naive!! You know why he's touching you, of course it's sexual and not just that, it's perverted.
You barely know the guy and you should be very careful because this doesn't seem right at all. He's testing the waters to see how far you allow him to go and his intentions are obviously not right.
Tread with caution
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (18 February 2017):
Uncle Wise has said pretty much what I was about to. First of all, you can't possibly be that naive!! You know why he's touching you, of course it's sexual and not just that, it's perverted.
You barely know the guy and you should be very careful because this doesn't seem right at all. He's testing the waters to see how far you allow him to go and his intentions are obviously not right.
Tread with caution
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (18 February 2017):
 Tell him to stop. Friends should not touch you sexually. If he doesn't stop, don't talk to him any more. He's touching you inappropriately and he may get worse, forcing you to do something you don't want to do.
Don't let people touch you like that unless you're in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2017): It means he's is groping you, and you're letting him disrespect you. Have you never dated before? Have your parents never told you how a man should treat you?
Unless you give him permission, it can be considered sexual-assault.
You can't possibly be so naive! That is not how you initiate a romance. It's how you treat a woman you consider dumb, or a tramp. Unless your relationship is well-established to be romantic in nature, and meant to include intimacy.
That is inappropriate and very disrespectful behavior if you are only friends; and he has not properly courted you. He has just been around two months claiming to be a friend.
You don't give a guy these liberties; unless you have mutually agreed to having a romance. If that's what you want from him, get him to tell you straight-out that's what this is all about!
Do you consent to him touching you that way, or just don't know what you should do?
That sort of touching doesn't come before dating and establishing what type of relationship you have. You might bypass decorum if you pick-up some drunken female in a bar. Not a lady you consider a decent and lovely person.
Just doing it is treating you like you're cheap and he is overstepping boundaries big-time! He doesn't think you're very smart, if you don't know any better.
He's taking advantage of you. He is very much out of line.
Feeling you up on the sly is not something a gentleman does to a lady he holds high regard for. If he wants to take things to a physical-level; he must first let you know what his intentions are and seek your approval. You don't grab first, and ask later.
You are old enough to know when behavior is inappropriate for the situation, and you shouldn't let a man paw all over you unless you both have agreed to a romantic-relationship.
If it's just about casual-sex, don't expect anything more than that.
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