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female
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30-35,
*ebeccaa
writes:Hi, this is not really a relationship problem its more about friends. So i have a feeling one of my closest friends is going to hve a problem with me being friends with other people, we havnt really been good friends that long about 6 month, and out of our group of friends i would say im closest to her. I dont really arrange to meet any of the others very often its mainly her who comes to my house and i go to hers, however just recently this other girl in our school who i have been friends with from being tiny but never realy been that close to her we have been talking more and i dont think my other friend is too keen. I was on facebook tonight when she was at my house and this new friend started talking to me and said i should sleep at her house and i said ok then she said we should go out the night before too my friend grabbed the laptop off me and started writting i cant im going out with ... that day. I told her not to send it tho, then after i was looking at peoples status's and i saw she had put my name and then your amazing love you, then my friend pulled a face and said she was being stupid, then the laptop went dead and when i charged it up i saw that she had been talking to her on chat and she told her that she was at my house and noone is going to be closer to me than her. What bothers me most is my other friend has another friend in our group that she is rely close to but when i have another friend she doesnt like it. Why is she doing this? How can i stop it?Thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): It sounds to me that your friend has become clingy and is jealous because you have a new friend. Your going to have to tell her that you don't accept her behaviour and she is going to have to accept that she cannot spend every minute with you. She obviously doesn't like you befriending other people and wants to isolate the people around you. She definitely has no respect for you either, it also sounds like she wants to be your only No. 1 Best Friend. She needs to know and get it into her head that she cannot be your only friend. If this carries on and she doesn't leave you alone, deny all access to her and don't let her come near you. You have to give her everything you've got to get her to know that you have to socialise with other people, otherwise if she carries on being your only friend and the only person you communicate with you will become less confident with socializing with other people when you and your best friend start working at other work places and find it hard to see each other face to face. Good luck!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (6 May 2011):
 hi
tell her you won't accept her behaviour. this toxic friend sounds like she won't be happy until she has isolated you away from all the others. definitely not a good sign. sounds like she's got issues and no respect for you. might be a good idea to cut her out of your life, or at least see her a lot less than you do now
xx
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