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*jekim
writes:Several months ago, I dated this great girl, but I had ended it cause she started canceling dates alot and seemed to have less and less time for me cause she said she was busy with school. The a weeks later, I realized that I still wanted to date her, apologized and asked if she would like to try again, and I would try to be more patient with her. However she said she was too busy, that she liked me, but it would like to date later not now.I graduated, but lost my car (dad wrecked, so he took mine) she said she would come see me, but never did, we kept in contact, but every time, she would be busy and would not be able to come.A couple of days ago,I asked her, if she would like to start dating again, since she would be out of school for summer. Unless she was seeing someone else or something... She said, yeah, I'm seeing someone else, sorry.I was so hurt, it felt to me she had just been lying to me this whole time, and that she had no intention of ever seeing me. A friend said she was leading me on, I don't really know what that that means, was she, if she just didn't tell me she was seeing someone, till I asked?I cant stop feeling hurt by it. Should I just delete her as a friend, block her, both? Or is there something else I should do to move on.
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reader, Cjekim +, writes (6 May 2011):
Cjekim is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone, but I should clear up some things. As it seems I wasn't clear enough last time. She never once told me "no" out right. Even when we were dating a while back, a situation came up where I asked her if she still wanted to date and she said it was up to me. When I said yes, she seemed very happy about it. After the split, she's been helping me thru email with things, also, to the point of facebook inviting me to an event of hers. There were a lot of maybes and probably, admittedly never a solid yes. This culminated this past week with me asking her to come see a movie with me, she said she was busy finishing classes, but maybe could do that weekend... Not a No. Was I misreading signs. She never ignored an email or message ? I've blocked her already, but I want to know for future reference
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reader, lovesucks2011 +, writes (6 May 2011):
Tell her to Fucked off,find someone better,delete/block her and never go back"I'm noones second choice" or "I'm not waiting for you forget,so its now or never. Its hard to do I know.but if she keeps saying no then apparently she dosent want you,then she dosent deserve you!
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Honestly, you should take this as a tip for your use in the future. Generally, girls don't like to turn down boys coz they feel bad or simply just don't have the guts to say it to your face that "no, you're not my type".
I for one is guilty of this. I tell you, it doesn't mean your being led on but one should expect that getting rejected repeatedly is enough for a person to get the hint. I myself have been rejected by guys and I know the feeling of being rejected. It's a subtle way to refuse someone, although not the best thing to do actually.
Also, don't take this too seriously..think of yourself as being presented with 5 girls. You yourself would choose only one and the rest you're not interested. It also happens that no one will attract you. But this doesn't mean they are not good, they are just not your type, simple.
Now, forget her, get up and go out. It's not worth your time to even waste another second thinking about her. She is not interested in you, why should you be?
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reader, cupidus +, writes (6 May 2011):
 She's deleted you, so ya, move on.
She probably thought you'd get the hint with the "too busy for you" dialog but finally had to just come out with it.
You've put your apples in the wrong basket. Next time don't try more than twice at a reunion. Once for the love and second for clarity. Then dust yourself off and walk away.
Walking away also means your moving towards something so don't feel badly, next GF will be better you're more prepared more educated in the field of love, it's actually something to look FORWARD too.
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