A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex dumped me about a month ago, I'm still not really sure why, and I immediately started no contact.After 2 weeks of silence he text me 'hey. just thought I'd drop you a text to see how you're doing x'... I replied to be civil and polite and we had a short conversation about school and our families, and I cut the conversation short as I was just about to go into a meeting so I said I had to run, told him it was nice talking to him and to take care, he said the same.Well it's been a week since that last conversation, and today we received some of our A-Level results so this afternoon I text him saying 'Hey! How was results day for you lol? x' (we're at different schools) and he never replied!!I haven't said anything, I'm not planning on contacting again. I was just trying to be civil and ask him how he did, nothing desperate, nothing about our relationship!If he didn't want us to be communicating, then why text me to see 'how I'm doing' and then ignore me when I try and speak to him?I'm really confused.My gut instinct tells me to go back to no contact and he'll come running in a few weeks when he realises I'm not chasing after him anymore... Actually I know for a FACT that will happen... isn't that always the case?!Why are guys so confusing?! Please help me with some advice on why he might be doing this.And what should I do if he does reply in a couple of days or weeks?
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (11 March 2010):
 he expected you to be the first to get in contact, chase him in a way but because you didnt he wanted to know how youd be with him that is why he texted you.but because you texted him asking about the results he might be thinking "i contacted once to check she was ok now shes texted me about my results is this her way of trying to get me back" if you know what i mean.id go back to no contact i mean he ended the relationship for a reason and you dont exactly no why so he shouldnt be trying to make you think your in for a chance by keeping in contact do you know what i mean.if he tries to contact you again id say dont reply because its like your hanging onto hope of getting back together you need to move on and find someone else in time
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reader, Kenj +, writes (11 March 2010):
 If you want to be civil, leave off the lol and x on your texts. Break off contact with him. He will contact you again if he loves you, unless he finds someone else.
Its up to you what you do, if you dont want a relationship with him but want to be friends only then tell him that.
If you want to get back into a relationship then communicate better.
If you want no more contact with him, keep ignoring the texts.
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