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36-40,
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writes:My ex boyfriend broke up with me a year ago after a on-and-off relationship. I moved on quite soon afterwards.The thing is this past year has been a nightmare for me. I tried to be friends with my ex but he was always bitchy and resentful and blaming me for everything. And acted like he was superior towards me.He got a girlfriend and started shoving her down my throat, so I cut all contact with him.So he started showing up with her outside my classes, and also started rubbing her in all my friends faces.He also pitched up at my friends work. Now beginning of this year he forced any mutual friends we had to choose between me and him. And the ones who were more my friends, he deleted them. So Ive just been ignoring everything up till this week. This week he went to speak to my friend again at her work and pretty much acted like he was better than her. He also went and parked right next to my car on campus. (He hasnt ever parked where I do and I respect him and dont park where he does). And the saturday morning at 7am, I had to help a friend set up for her 21st and drove right past him in the street that leads to my house. I dont live in an area where there is anything for him to be there at that time and that road you would only take to get to my house. Its also a back road that I showed him.I dont think its coincidence cause any encounter I have ever had with him, had been planned in advance by him. I dont know why he is acting this way. He dumped me and has a new girlfriend but the longer I have been with my boyfriend the worst it is getting. I need to know why he is acting like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): He's acting this way because he knows it gets to you. He's a vindictive spiteful asshole and If I were you I'd start taking timestamped photos of all of this. Seriously for the next month start gathering evidence. Ask friends to give you copies of messages he sent them relating to you. Take pictures of him in his car beside yours, gather as much evidence as you can. Get friends to promise to speak on your behalf. Then without warning report him to the college authorities for harassment and make an official police complaint seriously OP if he wants to play these games you can destroy him because what he's doing is very illegal and when you have enough evidence that he can't refute you can take him down for it.
Let's see how he likes it when he suddenly finds himself at the wrong end of an investigation into harassment with a restraining order on his ass.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 Hi,
Very simple... He still have feelings for you & he's not over you...
I understand that he's the one the broke off the relationship, however I think he regrets & was hoping that you'll come back to him, so that's why he's acting this way, because in his little head he's mad at you...because he's not over you!
The things that you describe, making your mutual friends choose, showing up where you are with his new girlfriend. Being where you're even though he has no reason or any business is very clear to me that he's trying to make you jealous.
I hate to say this, because I personally don't know him, however he's very immature for his age...
I am glad that you'd move on so fast & doing so well. I guess that's what's upsetting him so much...
Just ignore him, I know its hard when he's in your face all the time, but don't waste your precious time & energy on him anymore. Your real true friends will know & see that he's behavior is not normal. Your friends will see the real truth!!
Omg, imagine when you start dating & he finds out? Geez.. I actually feel sorry for him, his behavior shows his pain, shows his anger..
Hope this help
Good luck!
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