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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My long distance boyfriend is being really unsupportive atthe moment. My mother is ill and I have to look after her most of the time. She's been ill since I was born and I find it really difficult cleaning up after her when she's ill. I lose alot of sleep because I have to get up for her and he gets annoyed if I'm asleep when he's free to talk. Luckily I can move out next year. My boyfriend really doesn't care how upset I am with this situation and thinks I'm stupid for wanted to move out (moving in with other family members). He finds it funny thats she vomits and that I have to clean it yet he knows I have a real problem dealing with it, he just laughs and changes the subject is he being a jerk or should this topic be something I don't share with him?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (10 November 2010):
 The difference between you and your boyfriend is very clear. He is still a child with no responsibilities or empathy for others whereas you have been forced to mature beyond your years too early. Basically there is no future in the relationship with this boy. However, it worries me that you have such a carer role in your family at such a young age. I think that you should get outside help if your mother is ill. Your mother has dependency needs that mean she would be entitled to help from social services. This might involve a care-worker coming into your home daily to assist with the clean-up. Read this link: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/CaringForSomeone/CaringAndSupportServices/DG_4000194
You should seek help from the local citizens advice bureau or your GP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): I really don't think you should waste anymore time on this guy. You have enough to worry about with your mum being ill you don't need him adding to your worries. He sounds incredibley immature and insensitive. Dump him and don't look back.
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