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writes:I posted a while back that my bf had wrongfully accused me of hooking up with an acquaintance of ours before we started dating. He said the guy told him we had sex, so I sent the guy a message saying that I didn't care if he said it or not, that he needed to tell me the truth since someone was lying, either he lied to my bf or my bf lied to me. He never responded but it still caused problems in my relationship because I couldn't let it go and every time I brought it up, it started a fight. Anyway, I sent the guy another message saying he needed to tell my bf that nothing happened between us and he responded back later saying he never said we hooked up, he doesn't know where my bf got that from but that he called and left a voicemail on my bf's phone saying that nothing happened between us. I felt relieved that the truth came out and waited to see if my bf would ever bring it up and apologize. He didn't and neither did I since at this point it seemed too far gone to bring it up now and I didn't want to start another fight. Plus it seemed feasible that he hadn't checked his voicemails yet, but now it's been weeks and he still hasn't mentioned it. Do you think this means that my bf was making the whole thing up and is ignoring the situation because he doesn't want to come clean? Should I just leave it alone since the truth is out and now he knows that I didn't lie to him? Or am I being childish by not wanting to bring it up? Reply to this Question
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reader, Makayla5893  +, writes (4 June 2013):
I would let it go if I was you, as the issue has already caused arguements. I think perhaps your boyfriend was bluffing when he said that your friend told him the two of you hooked up, in the hope of you admitting to it. Since he has been made out to look silly, he obviously wants to let sleeping dogs lie. I think the real issue here is that your boyfriend is insecure and doesn't trust you... I wouldn't tolerate any accusations in the future. You don't want to be constantly defending yourself, because you deserve better than that. Good luck!
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