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writes:why is love such a difficult thing? i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2yrs and with me away at college its getting harder for us to stay together. we are in love and we both agreed that we where going to get married when i graduate in a 2yrs. its getting to the point though where we hardly talk on the phone anymore and thats the only way we can communicate. I dont wanna break it off but its hard not to think the worst when u have people all around you putting these bad thoughts in your head like he is cheating on you or why do u put up with him, etc. what do i do to ignore this or should i break it off even though it will break me all the way down if he isn't in my life. someone please help. signed a confused heart Reply to this Question
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reader, bab4life18 +, writes (15 November 2006):
bab4life18 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I wanted to clear this up. We want to get married now its just I was afraid that i wouldn't be able to handle school and a wedding at the same time. If we did get married now would It be hard to juggle school and a marriage?
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reader, marie78 +, writes (14 November 2006):
You two should either get married now and live in the same area or give the relationship a break... and see what happens in two years. Being away at school is difficult. You don't get to see him that often and he doesn't get to see you... The first thing you need to do is express your concerns to him and see what he says. Good Luck!
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reader, bab4life18 +, writes (11 November 2006):
bab4life18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey i wanted to thank y'all for all the advice. my bf and i are going to sit and have a long talk and hopefully everything works out for the best. im also trying to keep others from controlling the way i think because my rmmates are always putting bad thoughts about my bf in my head and that might be the cause of all this. well thanks and ill keep y'all posted
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): Good advice from the last person although I have some thats better. Ive been in a similar situation...
#1. Look inside yourself and really take some time out of your day to sit down and figure out the pros and cons of this relationship...Are you getting what you need from it? Do you really need want this relationship RIGHT NOW or are you holding on because he's your comfort and you're affraid to be alone? Think about all this because you may discover its not about him, its more about YOU and what YOU need and want.
#2. You're are not married. Hence the fact you have NO OBLIGATION to feel tide down. Date a little maybe. Get to know yourself better, and maybe your paths will cross again in the future and will work out then..If not, theres someone better out there for you, just not right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): What a great answer Baby Girl, i agree with you. I think a meeting is uttermost. Iron out all your problems together. See how you both feel once you have had your say. Put don't be afraid to put all your cards on the table. Let him know exactly how you feel and listen with patience to his views. I wish you both well but it can't go on like this. x
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