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writes: Why is that ,that middle age man loses their sex drive?Are they losing it only with their wifes? Why is that, when they get a new relationship they get it back? So is this their hormones,or just boredom ? Why is that that this is more likely to happen to man and to woman? My husband is just in a bad mood, and I don;t think, I want to please him, like start running around for sexy lingerie, I think if he doesn't like me, for the same thing he used to, than its better just leave it. As its too much to maintain. I'm more on a feminist this way.So is it unrealistic view on marriage to stay yourself and not turning to be an escort service? Why do we have to please? Or older woman worth less? There is too much competition out there?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 Maybe he's suffering from erectile dysfunction and is embarrassed about it. A simple trip to the doctors could be all it takes to jump start your love life. It can be a touchy subject with some men but it really shouldn't be and there are a variety of treatments available. See if you can gently broach this subject with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Yes thanks, some really good points. I wanted to ask, thatgothgirl20,
what do you mean about, ""
How many middle-aged men have you been with?"" means? AS the problem is I only know one , and it is my husband... And he doesn't feel sexual toward me anymore, but he clearly states, nothing would turn him on, not porn not a stripper ,or any fantasy.
So he says he loves me, its not me. So it wouldn't make sense to run around too much for him, as he states ''nothing turns him on'' Should I believe this, or is it too suspicious? thanks
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 October 2008):
What's wrong about trying to spice up your sex life? You BOTH benefit from it don't you?! You never want sex to become just routine. What too hard to maintain about buying some sexy lingerie and putting it on? You aren't competing with anyone, you are pleasing your husband who will return the favor to you, and sister, there is nothing anti-feminist about that!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 October 2008):
He's probably just getting to the point where he sees you more as a respectable woman in your own right, and the mother of his children. He no longer sees you as the sex kitten you used to be.
It's not about dressing up as a prostitute to compete with younger girls. It's about injecting a bit of something new into your sex life. Inspiring him to look at you in that way again and reminding him how great you are in the bedroom. It's all about bringing back the mystery by showing him a new side.
It's interesting that most swingers are middle aged, when you migh assume it's loose moraled 20somethings. That's because by your stage in life you are both mature enough to deal with emotional sexual things that we young lovers couldn't handle.
I'm not suggesting you go swinging (unless you want to) but just to see how your life and changed and you need to adapt.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (22 October 2008):
 How many middle-aged men have you been with? Cos you seem confused. He may be physically just exhausted and not able to do so.
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