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writes:Ok, so this V-Day started off great with my boyfriend! But ended in a disaster. :-( We've been dating for almost a month. We watched a live sports game. Afterwards, he had planned for us to go to a hotel, with jacuzzi, and have a little wine. I just got my period hrs. before!! I said, "No" His whole attitude changed for the rest of the evening. We went thru dinner with him being quiet and a bit distant. I kept asking throughout the day, "What's wrong?" He kept saying, "nothing is wrong." I knew it wasn't ok!So, finally after a very quiet dinner at a fancy restaurant. I stopped him while we were walking, did not let him go until he talked...After a few minutes of saying..'I'm fine' He finally confessed...'He wanted to end the evening with sex or me giving him oral. He just thought I would agree, since it was V-Day.' You know make it special for him too. Also, he wanted to take me to a bar to loosen up a bit. I was like what the heck...why is soooo hard for a guy to just come out and express his feelings?!? He said he would of eventually told me, but the NEXT DAY!! And he said I have to keep pushing him to tell me these things..he's just a typical guy. Is this true?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): LazyGuy is right in that he wanted sex, you weren't going to give in to his expectation of sex, end of discussion. HOWEVER, I will add, what is then the point of pouting, if things are so clear? Why let this detail ruin your evening? After all you surely do have enough time for that type of fun during the rest of your relationship while it lasts. I find this behaviour very immature and unless you fostered it by rejecting him in an uncaring way without realising or something of the kind, you should be very careful about this relationship and be sure you understand or at least pay attention to what each of you expects out of this relationship so you are not surprised later on. All the best.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 Women talk about problems, men fix them. It is why women are better at relationships but it is men who create things.
Basically, if you told a woman you had a nasty bacterial infection she would comfort you as you slowly wasted away and tried to make your final hours more bearable.
A man would discover Penicillin.
What after all was the point for him to talk about his feelings. He wanted sex, you weren't going to give him any, end of discussion.
Try this difference, present a problem to both your male and female friends and see who gives you support and who fixed the problem. The more male a person the more likely they are to fix it, the more feminine the more they are likely to talk about it.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (16 February 2009):
Yes - I went out with a guy who was very moody (whenever I wouldn't give him sex) - but he would never talk about it!! - I think men must think we are mind readers!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Yes it is totally true and to be honest with you hunni, it is one of my pet hates about men! As i am not a man myself i do not know the real reason but it is most probably because they want to act tough. Also good for you for not giving in, if you do not want to have sex with him don't you both have to be happy in a relationship cos it is not all about one person it is about two people being happy and loving eachother!
Hope this helps:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, by the way we haven't had sex yet. I've gone as far as me giving him a hand job and oral. So, he was kinda expecting this day to end really good. :-(
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