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writes:I'm looking for some "outside" opinions on this. I have a person I know who is in most of my classes. I'm in post secondary school. We met when we came to school and have remained aqaintences ever since. He sometimes seems to be flirting or complimenting me, but at the same time I don't really know if he's just being friendly or undeciding. If it were anyone else I would take his compliments and comments as meaning he liked me, but he also I'm afraid he's just acting this way since he dislikes my former boyfriend and since he wants a friend in his classes who can help him out. In the past when I was with the boyfriend he dislikes he told me he had no attraction to me. However, he keeps telling me he likes my outfits and that I should wear them more often and whatnot. I just don't know how to take what he's saying and the fact that now he hangs out with me a lot more and is nice to me. I guess maybe I'm trying to protect myself from other people since I'm afraid of making a mistake. I'm happy as I am and afraid of drama. What should I think of all of this or do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice so far. I didn't really mean what should I do if he does like me, I just meant how should I take his actions more or less? Pretty much I'm hearing the only thing I can do is trust my own judgement or seek the assistance of those who know him best. Makes sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This could be anything unfortunately.
You see, I like to compliment women if I feel that I want to tell them.
"That's an absolutely fabulous dress you're wearing. It compliments your figure deliciously."
Most women unfortunately, think I like them when I make comments like that. No. It just means exactly what it means. However, not every guy who compliments a girl means exactly that.
However, the thing that bugs me about your comment/question is your last sentence: "What should I think of all of this or do?"
What should you think of all of this? Think however you want. If you think he's flirting, then he's flirting. If you think he's attracted to you and wants to pursue something further, then give him the chance if you want it as well. If you think he is simply complimenting you, then allow him to if you like. If you feel uncomfortable, tell him about it.
It's really not that hard.
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reader, nikki485  +, writes (16 February 2009):
If you have any guy friends that hang out with him, ask them to ask him if he likes you...but make it clear he knows what 'like' is :)
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