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*eccamega
writes:After my ex royally screwed me over and I went through a bad breakup. I've tried datinf other people wihtout success.Guy #1 I was crazy about. But he was immature and didn't know what he wanted. He was off and on with me. I got pissed off and didn't want to be the fallback girl girl. So we brokeup.Guy #2 I saw for a few months but the had to go back home to interstate, before our relationship could develop. Partly my own fault for getting involved with someone who was going to leave. He was crazy about me, yet I am ambilvent about us. He asked me to move in with him, but I haven't fallen in love with him yet. He asked me after I had grieved for our relationship I think.Yet one of my coworkers has been with her boyfriend for years and has never even dated soemone else. She constantly goes on and on about how she wants to marry him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Guy#1 does not sound immature as much as just not serious about you. Being manipulative is not a maturity problem, it's an ethical problem.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (14 June 2011):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your advice
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reader, zebralove  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 You know, you'r are not the only persone to ask yourself that question. And some ppl are the luckey ones who find a long lasting love at a young age. Not me, not you and the rest of the planet. Finding a persone with whom you will live the rest of your life with takes time and patients. But remember that there not only ONE persone made for you out there (because if there was no one would ever stay together I mean what would be the odds of that). So keep dating and don't forget who you are. :)
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Everybody is different and don't compare yourself to your coworker or anybody else.
So what if its taking a while to find the right man. So what if you had few little relationships that didn't work. Some people find love at 1st sight, some might take a while, might go through relationship after relationship, but I am sure you'll find love and be happy.
Meanwhile, enjoy life, appreciate everyday, don't waste time thinking about things that don't matter. Its just a waste of energy.
Don't pressure yourself either. Now that you're single, enjoy your single life. Do the things that you wanted to do, spend time w/friends and family. Go out, enjoy freedom. Take classes, sports, cooking, whatever you find it interesting. When you least expect you'll meet "him" and everything will make sense.
If you're positive and happy, good guys will want to approach you
Good luck!
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