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writes: I am very confused at my ex's behavior. We broke up maybe 13 months ago because he got scared of how serious our relationship was and decided he wasn't sure how he felt about me anymore. He dumped me. Two weeks later he was with someone else and I was very upset because he told me we might get back together later, but then at that time he told me he moved on, but he did miss me as a friend and wanted to work out a friendship. I said no way.Months, and months went by and then we ended up getting a job at the same place. I told him I did want to be friends again now, and he was very relunctant to accept and then said he would like to be, but things need to be taken slowly. I agreed, even though I think the slowness is a little dramatic and silly, since he was ready right after we broke up.He and the other girl have since been broken up for 10 months. We have been working together for 6...and things are not changing. He is very weird, sometimes acting like he wants to talk to me, sometimes acting like he doesn't know me. He'll mostly talk to me if I talk to him and will act excited about it and we've conversed over the phone briefly (at his calling) and had a few IM conversations that were very brief. I know he doesn't think I'm like a terrible person.He recently told a friend how difficult this whole situation is, but he's trying hard to be friends with me, however its moving extremely slowly. He's always been someone who cares deeply about someone, said he never threw around the word "love", but told me he loved me. And i do believe him because we were good friends for several months before our relationship, thinking it was never going to work out. He's always been a very caring and sensitive person, and EVERYONE loves him because he's a politician type who's kind to people he doesn't even like necessarily. But from knowing him intimately, I do know he does feel deeply and intensely and cares for most people.I do not have leftover feelings for him...well the normal first love (we were each other's first...everything!) feelings, but other than that I would never take him back for varied reasons and he knows that. I enjoy hanging out with him as a friend, but nothing more, but he seems so reluctant!And here is the kicker...he even rejected my myspace friendship, yet still continues to hold conversations with me over myspace!! That is the most confusing and annoying aspect...and he has over 500 friends on myspace, some of which are other ex-girlfriends, who were of course less serious and those he didn't tell he loved, but WTF?!What is going on? I think he might even be interested in another girl, which is fine with me, but all the more reason for him to not act weird and be over me!
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reader, shania  +, writes (11 February 2006):
 I know where you are coming from....you are wondering why he can talk to other people and his exes with no problems but when it comes to you...he ignores you,CHARMING....why waste your time and effort over him...he sounds insecure or down right rude.I would just ignore him....give a taste of his own medicine....your worth more then that....if he is not mature enough to stay friends with you...then he isnt worth knowing.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): i'm the author, and he seems pretty consistant in his huge relunctance to be friends since last year. He says he wants to, but its hard. He doesn't really talk to me when its convient for him, that's silly to say. I just don't understand why he's okay with everyone else and all his other exes, but not me when I literally didn't do ANYTHING but move on.
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reader, shania +, writes (10 February 2006):
Just forget him...he sounds like another bloke who enjoys playing mind games.He suits himself when he wants to talk to you...but when the shoe is on the other foot and you want to talk,he runs a mile and acts weird.Personally i would just be polite...say hello and walk away...dont make a issue out of it,and if by chance he wants to talk....just say your busy and you havent got the time....he sounds like he changes his attitude like the wind.
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