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writes: I have this problem that I need help with please will someone help me. I am sick of school people say I am lesbian cause I have not been out with a lad at my school only one but I don't count him as 1 because it only lasted a day and he was tight and I am not a lesbian it makes me want to be sick.wt should I do and also I have'nt been out with a lad since last year it lasted long but I did'nt see him that much cause I was all ways with my friend so wt should I do and I dare not to ask a lad out cause I am scared wt they might say and I all ways let boys ask me out please someone help me my brain is lost I need help really quick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): Hey don't worry, people say that about me sometimes but I just ignore them! ^_^ ( I am 13 by the way.) You just have to put up with it. I have never been out with anyone, my advice would be to either 1. Ignore them. Not always a successful tactic but don't let them see that your upset. 2. Laugh along with them because its the opposite reaction to what they want, get your friends to support you and laugh aswell, they will be the ones who feel small even though you haven't done anything. I'm a shy person and people target me because of it, I'm still alive surviving the pain of an all girls school, consider yourself lucky you have guys around you! Good luck! xxx
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reader, Listerning Angel +, writes (10 February 2006):
I never had any Bf at my school either, this doesn't make you a lesbian. It doesn't matter what other think, you know yourself that you are not. Wehn you are at school it doesn't matter someone will always find something to tease you about. I would just ignore any stupid comments that they say. You will find a boyfriend one day, I never had the confidence to ask a boy out just like you.All i did was concentrate on having a good life and doing well at school, and i totally forgot about finding a BF and one day the right one just come to me and asked me out (this happend when i was about 19) And to this day im still with that same person and im now 25. So good things do come to those that wait. There is no law saying that you have to have a bf at school. If you do want to find one now, the only things i can suggest is go to places with your friends like cienmas and other things around your area. You can try chatting to boys on the net BUT BE SENSIBLE ABOUT IT. Dont rush and meet someone before you get to know them and trust them well enough.But i really wouldn't worrie to much about meeting someone it will happen when you least expect it too
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reader, Vortexia +, writes (10 February 2006):
In my experience, people will only pick on you for something you react to. They probably don't even think you are a lesbian, but they enjoy watching you get angry/upset everytime they call you one.
I think you should try to ignore it. Don't deny it, don't agree with it. Just laugh it off and carry on with whatever you were doing. I found people soon grew tired of something of teasing when they no longer got a reaction.
You don't say how old you are, but I figure you must be in your teens. Possibly 15yrs old? At this point, I don't think you should be running around to get a boyfriend just to prove who you are to anyone. It wouldn't be fair to you, or the boy.
When people used to ask me if I was gay, I'd shut them up by asking them if they were interested. It always worked. Of course, that could backfire on you if a girl actually was interested.
If it becomes too much for you, find someone in school you can talk to. Have you any older siblings? A teacher you trust. You shouldn't have to put up with this crap.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): listen hunny! im black, and im a lesbian, and i was accused of being one for many years! maybe you should wake up sugar and figure out what you really want, either a man or a woman. Ignore what others say, its you that counts in this life baby! toodles!
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