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writes: why is easier for guy to girlfreind then a girl to get a boyfreind,i find getting boyfriend next to impossible and i don't like dating web sites.i find guys don't like becasue i have a fat round face and short body thats out propertion,and chubby legs,i have never had a boyfriend and i never got first kiss.i am sad and pathetic i know,guys are very hard on me becasue i am not gorgeous looking and tall and skinny and younger.i can't do much about my physical and height and proptions or mt age and i wish i could.guys have it a lot easer its just not fair it really isn't fair.do guys have any common sence
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reader, Randomveteran  +, writes (18 February 2009):
I must disagree. As a 33yo male who has NEVER had a GF, I would say it is easier for girls. I speak of experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): BUT GUYS I KNOW ARE VERY SHALLOW AND WON'T GIVE ME A CHANCE. so what chances have i got. i am no skinny tall busty model
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (8 February 2009):
don't go looking for a boyfriend, because you will never find the right guy. you need to just go out with your friends for a girls night out and he will find you. you will meet someone when you're not expecting to, like shopping or on a girls only night.
i think men have a hard time finding women to date as much as women find it hard. it's just about timing and being in the right place.
also have you tried speed dating? it's good fun for a girls night out and you get to have lots of quick dates with lots of different guys. it's a great way to mix with new people and you never no, he may be there.
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reader, nash +, writes (7 February 2009):
rythymandblues is quite right in the sense, we think we choose the girl but in all honesty, we know that it's not us that chooses the girl, it's the girl that accepts our liking of them. the thing here is quite simply you haven't found the one that is right for you, it's a subconcious thing that cannot be helped, we all to it, male,female or whatever. The trick is to get to know someone's personality before their other qualities, us men find it tons harder than women(or so I believe) to access this and so we tend to be that bit more shallow than women and because of that we tend to gamble on girls knowing that eventually a yes will be said however women approach things differently(not all women I hasten to add) but a lot of women try to get the one person they like at the time and that guy may unfortunately be one of the shallow ones. the main thing is, if we can over-ride our subconcious for a little bit, we could all have someone with equal ease.Alexander.M
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): Wow, that is quite a pity pary you are throwing here. Guys don't really have it easier I don't think than girls do, but it is true that guys act as if they choose us, but really they don't.
Guys for instance when in a room full of girls will look around for the girls that interest them and they will most likely start with the most attractive and they look for signals and signs of the girl's interest, but guess what a lot of the girls they like don't like them, so the girl's actually get to choose the guys, we are the ones who give them permission to proceed.
So what you need to do is stop beating yourself up about how you look, do the best with what God gave you and smile and be approachable to guys. If you don't like yourself very much or are feeling undesirable it is going to show in your posture, your eyes, your face and guys are going to think that you are rejecting THEM.
Also, don't make finding a boyfriend your goal. Just meet some fellas and try to find some common ground with them start out being friendly and being a friend and encourage them by flirting if you like them and eventually you will have some dates, and then someday you will have a boyfriend. The likelihood is very high that this will happen, but while you are waiting around, stop waiting around and focus on other things and other people and have some gratitude that your body is healthy and you have two legs that ar carrying you around no matter how chubby you think they are.
Guys like girls with curves.
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