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writes:There’s a new term of affection out there in case you haven’t noticed. It’s a phrase rooted most likely in some rap song… I would appreciate it if someone could reference the first use if it, I know I am curious about it. Well the term is “Show Some Love.”Because the word “Love” is a part of it, it sounds like a wonderful phrase doesn’t it. And it is, really. But the dirty secret about this term is that it replaces “I Love you” without a commitment attached to it. It’s the kind of thing where two perfect strangers can say the phrase “Show Some Love” sleep with each other and all is well. In other words “Show Some Love” is a little empty-handed. A way of saying I like you a lot but would never commit to you or ever show weakness in my part by declaring I really Love you, but I would love to fuck you. Oh No... Never say I Love you. It’s a different world I live in than the one I was born to. Now it’s come to the point where two people can date, screw like rabbits, never have to say I love you and all is ok. If the scary words “I Love You” ever arise it means “I am committed to you”… or it could mean I am a dumb-ass and don’t know any thing better to say. Its funny how three simple words can scare people off more than having sex with them….something to think about, eh? But that’s what it is now. “I Love You” is a loaded phrase now. You just can’t say those words anymore. And when you do you don’t know what you are in for …whether you are saying the words or on the receiving end. It’s like throwing a bomb that will either explode or fizzle out like a dud in a relationship...and because it has the potential to go both ways people are afraid to say it now. When you say “I Love You” you had better hear it back from the other person or you are in for a huge letdown. You don’t want to say “I Love You” and the other party tells you….”Oh, that’s nice.” Or just look at you blankly while crickets chirp.So now we use the term “Show Some Love.” Its safe, it’s sweet, and it expresses affection. I could say the same thing about cherry flavored condoms… Is it really like that you may ask? Can’t you “Show Some Love” to someone other than someone you want to just fuck, but not commit to? Sure you can “Show Love” to a perfect stranger of whatever sex, friend or whatever it’s ok. On MySpace you see the line a lot. Like a code phrase that replaces a handshake. But you don’t tell your Mom you want to “Show some Love.” Of course, you tell your mom you love her. You can do the same with a brother or sister…saying “I Love You.” If I told my sister I want to “show you some love” she would look at me like what planet are you from! Here it is in a nutshell: “Show Some Love” is a street term. Basically, it means I like you. It’s cool and in fashion now to say. I have no problem with it. I like it and use the term a lot. However I realize that the more a term like this is used out there the less the term of real meaning… “I Love You” begins to be less popular and therefore scary to say. I wish we could change that.I just want us to go back to saying “I Love You” more. Why does it have to be so scary to say? Why do you have to fear it! You shouldn’t have to. I have a suggestion…. The next time you feel the urge to say “Show Some Love.” Think twice. Maybe what you really want to say is “I Love You.” You should never be afraid to express love and give love not just “show” love. This is just a suggestion. My way of trying to break down the barriers of fear associated with Love. You should never be afraid to love. And never look strangely at the face of those doing more than “Showing Love.”Peace Out.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 August 2008):
 After recently telling someone that I "loved them a great deal," and even though the sentiment was returned frequently, the relationship fizzled - but there were other factors such as distance and very different backgrounds. My preference these days is to eventually admit that "I care about you" if anything. And that takes quite a bit of time before utterance.
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reader, LonelyButNotAlone +, writes (22 August 2008):
 You and I must be on the very same wavelength, sir. It was only but a minute ago that I made this post to the forums:
http://www.dearcupid.org/forum/romance/1202
You're spot on with everything you've written. It's very scary to say. It hurts to tell someone you love them only not to have your love returned. It's also very telling... it let's them know how serious you are.
It's because of these things that I've waited so long to say it. But I can't hold back my feelings any longer and I'm willing to take the risk.
It's funny that you've written this now, of all times. Perhaps I should take that as some kind of sign. :)
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reader, caraduddy  +, writes (22 August 2008):
 haha ... well love can be ment in different contexts. LOVE in a relationship is a strong word. Today you get people using it for the fun of it. you can also LOVE something. - it can be meant in different ways. It can be a strong word. Be careful how you use it if in a relationship
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