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writes:I've been dating this guy, and one of his friends, who i have never met in person, has contacted me a few times. The guy i am dating wasn't aware that his friend did this until i told him. The first time his friend contacted me, he told me that the guy i am dating couldn't wait to see me, and that was just before we went on our first date. The second time his friend contacted me was just before we went on our second date. He said that the guy i am dating had been talking about me a lot to him, and he said the guy i am dating was going to wine and dine me. The last time his friend contacted me, he asked me why i never chat to him. I haven't responded to any of his messages. I'm not sure if i should. as i have never met him in person, and i am still getting to know the guy i am dating. Should i tell the guy i am dating to say something to him? Do you think it's rude that his friend is contacting me, especially when he doesn't even know me, or do you think he is just trying to be friendly? I don't really like ignoring people, but it does feel like he's trying to interfere in the relationship. I also hope that the guy i am dating wouldn't tell his friend everything that we do! The guy i am dating probably wouldn't like it if one of my friends contacted him either, especially if he didn't know them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): This is all strange. I do wonder if they man you're dating knows about his friend contacting you. Why don't you ask him about it in person, watch his facial and body language to see if he is being honest or not. I would tell the other guy to stop contacting you, either that or ignore him as you're doing, block his number etc. Good luck.
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 It's far fetched to think that this random friend of his wants to devote his time telling you this. I think the guy you're seeing is putting him up to this to see how you'll respond.
Play the game! It's a test! Don't respond back! It shows that you aren't just some flirt wanting to talk to every guy, ya know?
But do casually mention it to him, very playfully, something like "Your friend has been messaging me saying how excited you've been to go on dates with me, is he trying to embarrass you? It's funny!"
That'll bring up the conversation in a lite manner without any sort of accusations.
Otherwise, this seems pretty harmless. If you ever meet his friend and he mentions it, just tell him that you weren't comfortable replying back to someone you didn't know. It shows you have common sense- he shouldn't be offended by that.
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reader, elise22  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 It is certainly very strange that he is contacting you.. Since he is a good friend of the guy you're dating, you obviously can't be rude to him. If this relationship works out, that would be a problem. I really wouldn't know what to do with this...As for the second problem, I don't think you need to worry about him telling his friend everything. Guys in general aren't really like that. And even if he did, well, your friend might not contact the guy you are dating, but don't you tell her everything? I tell my best friend everything..I would talk to you're dating guy about this, tell him to stop contacting you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): It is a bit odd to say the least, are you sure your boyfriend hasn't put him up to it?
I wouldn't reply either, it all seems very inapropriate behaviour
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