A
female
age
30-35,
*onderBite
writes:My boyfriend and I have been Togther for fifteen months. Three months into our relationship I fell pregnant, and now we have a daughter who is beautiful.Though in my mind something in our relationship is missing. he works and all, but it's always about him. He spends his money on his own things, and I'm the one who worries about paying the bills or buying our daughter things.I am the one who cares for her she will be three months old soon My boyfriend and I have been fighting and he started to yell at me. Though he says he doesn't mean to, but I was over it.I told him when he comes back from work in Melb he would be moving with his mum again. His reply was, "when can I see our daughter?" and "can I have pictures of her often?" The way I took that reply was that he didn't care it was over, Nor about me? Though he says he does, I really don't know. what to do? I do love him. Though he has many defects but so do I.But I just don't know how much more I can take of he's selfishness, and him raising his voice at me when he comes home. He picks bubs up and wakes her up for cuddles for a bit of time, and puts her back down, expecting she will go back straight to sleep. Though she doesnt and leaves me with her, after it took me ages to get her to sleep.Also he is always on he's iPhone so we don't have much communication. At the start we could enjoy our company. Though he says it's because we don go out. I'm pretty sure couples should enjoy each others company. no matter at home or notHe's family treated me like rubbish through nine months of being pregnant. He is my first time lover I really don't know what to do. If good balances the bad or bad over balances the good :( the way I took his reply was he doesnt care for me, but stays for our daughter. I'm 18 and he's 20 if age makes any difference to your opinion
View related questions:
money Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, kaykay1989  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 This must be really hard on you. It isn't fair that your left holding the baby. Pregnancy happened quite quickly i understand did he say at the beginning that he was unsure of the baby situation? Maybe it has become to much for him on the scale of how quickly its gone.
This still doesn't give him the excuse to leave it all to you. Have you tried talking to him properly about how this is making you feel. The first few months are the toughest and tell him you need him to take more of a role in this babies life and not a back seat.
As for the him moving home situation im very suprised he didn't ask why you wanted to leave and put up more of a fight. You need to confront him about this and see where his loyalty's lie good luck xoxoxox
|
