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writes:I slept with a boy I know on Saturday (we were both drunk). Everything was fine and we were talking afterwards. The next morning I was a quite off with him, but I was planning on apologising about this. Today at college however, his best friend came over to me and was telling me lots of horrible things he said about me (not actually about me in bed, just me in general). Why would he do this? Is it just he's trying to talk big to his friends, or that he's "upset" about how I was with him the next morning? I don't want to see him again, but I was willing to stay friends with him- I definitely don't want that now. I would like some light shed on why he now thinks it's okay to talk crap about me.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Mines 56. The jury is still out.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 I understood what you said and I think it was wrong of him to talk bad about you to his friends. You are young and I'm assuming he is too, remember guys don't really mature till I want to cross my fingers on this and say maybe 26.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't talk horribly to him in the morning, I didn't really talk to him at all, although he was trying to make minimal conversation.
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reader, raiders +, writes (15 June 2010):
she was off with him....in return he goes around talking crap to his friends about her in my opinion he is very immature.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): Raiders, did you even read the whole story before you started saying it's an example of men being immature?
After they had sex, she started this off by talking crap to him for no reason. Then she is surprised when he doesn't have good things to say to his friends afterward. The story makes me think one of them was being immature but not the guy.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (15 June 2010):
If you share the possibility of conceiving a child with someone, it really should be someone who you respect, not regret.
The fact that you didn't respect each other enough to communicate properly afterwards means you didn't know each other well enough to be having sex this quickly.
Having said that, he's probably trash talking you just because you got huffy the next morning and pointed your anger at him, in other words, blaming him solely; when you need to own your end of the responsibility in the decision to get drunk and sleep with him - and then got angry.
Text or call him for a sit down meeting - coffee - You did say that you owe him an apology - and then talk through what ever else you need to with him.
And get to a clinic if you didn't use protection.
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reader, raiders +, writes (15 June 2010):
Women mature way way way before men and this is why men which I prefer to call boys talk nonsense, after he has sex with a female. Sometimes it is to boost there images, there ego, and he obviously starting talking about you because by you not talking to him could mean you didn't like it and might tell the whole world about it, so he chose to beat you to the punch. Not worth the headache and stay away he needs to grow up.
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