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writes:Why have I been receiving the silent treatment?This guy friend I have has been recently talking to me alot through texting, talking online, hanging out quite a bit and we have fooled around in the past and recently because of our attraction.In the past however, he's jumped around from woman to woman, even talking to two women while I thought we were developing a relationship. He started liking one girl over summer, then changed his mind and started dating another but cheated on her a month later both physically and via online chats.But we've remained friends anyways, and with his recent flood of conversation, all started by him, he has no reason to ignore me! Im not pushing him for any relationship or anything, and it was all going fine until one day he completely ignores me.Its been 9 days, and Im completely confused and depressed, wondering if its my fault and I want to talk to him again. I've even tried asking, getting no reponse. Why is he doing this and when will it stop?
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reader, mzpretttykilla22  +, writes (20 December 2008):
 Simply, he's still trying to figure out what he want's in life. And in your case it may not be you. But don't take it negatively because nobody deserves to get hurt. Maybe you should approach him in a friendly matter, and tel him how you fee. If he reply's sincerely then maybe you can wait on it. But if he shows no interest it's time to get a reality check mamas. Best luck : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Sounds like he thinks he's a player! Maybe he's okay to be friends with but don't go planning your life around him! Who knows why you haven't heard from him in 9 days; maybe he's busy with his most recent conquest.
Take a step back and ask yourself realistically, Do I want to be one of his "girls." Or Should I remain his friendship and candidness to listen and learn what exactly I don't want in a man??????? Sometimes the difference between being a friend or a lover can be tremendous! Think of him as a friend, and don't obsess about not hearing from him. Weeks go by that I don't hear from my friends, and I think nothing of it...it's when there are other feelings that we expect more!
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (20 December 2008):
 Sounds like he's a jerk and even if he does try to talk to you again I wouldn't answer him. You don't need someone like that in your life, someone who might want to hang out one day and ignore you another. I've had friends like that, & it's best to let them go.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (20 December 2008):
 He doesn't seem to be a one woman kinda man. He's playing the field and playing with your heart. Now he has your mind confused and has no real intention of making you the woman in his life. You deserve to have someone who will make you first place in his life not in whatever place he chooses in his Harem!
Leave this man to live his dream. He is probably the only one who doesn't see he is really creating a NIGHTMARE for himself. You can hold out for someone better and a more positive influence in your life. He attracts women iike flies by leading them on and telling them whatever they want to hear, then he selfishly leads them to wherever they will follow. Beware that you don't find yourself somewhere alone and too heartbroken to find your way back.
Ditch this man who is really a little boy playing a childish game in which he only
THINKS he is winning. Stand up for yourself and show him that he ISN"T really all that matters. Pull yourself up by your bootsraps and grasp your self-esteem cause you are about to take him for a ride!
Love yourself enough to walk away and leave him to wallow in his own ignorance. He isn't worth all the trouble you put yourself to in trying to convience him that you care and that he should at least be your friend. Friends don't mistreat you and show you the disrespect that he already has. Don't blame yourself for caring about someone but only take the blame for letting him go on taking advantage of you. Put a stop to his bad behaviour by letting go of rope that he has kept dangling in front of you to keep you holding on.
*Just a note............if you practice giving him the SILENT TREATMENT you will probably get better results than anything you could ever say.
God Bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): hes doing it because he can... dont try with him wait for him to contact u and if he doesnt **** him! i know u want to think u have a friendship with him so he wont treat u the way he treats other girls but the only thing guys like that respond to is getting treated the way he treats u so leave him to stew and go find a new distraction ;)
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