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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two months...although we have known each other for 6 months and part of that we started out being friends with benefits, everything was great until just the other night. He got all upset when i received a text from a guy that we both work with at our job.Soand he ignored me for two hours while i was at his house and so i got up and left becuase i was tired of sitting through all the crap he was trying to make me feel like...He told me that when i left that i would be on my own all weekend. So i went out with my best friend that night...i needed to take my mind off things. He turned off his phone because i was busy and wasn't returning his texts. The next day i tried really hard to make him move on and have a better weekend and so after he made me feel bad all day . he told me that i had to stay home while he went the movies by himself. Which made me upset...he then told me that he was actually was trying to make me feel like he felt yesterday. Which was really hurtful. But everything was fine we ended up going to the movies and getting some food...until he looked at my neck and i guess there was a red spot that looked like a hickie and i told him that i was out with my friend and that she is mormon so we didnt do anything. I would never cheat on him!!! and that ruined the movie he wouldnt touch me or talk to me....on the way home i asked him how he could think i would cheat on him, im with him all the time, and he wants to move down to oregon in a couple months, which we are both excited about. He got out of the car and told me that if he was such a problem that i should stop dating him... and then threw his phone into the back of my car. so today he emailed me this morning and since i have his phone we cant communicate except through email...My question behind all of this is... Due to his two year relationship four years ago and hasnt dated anyone until me... is it possible that if his ex cheated that he would have insecurities that would cause him to have anger with me? and He is and can be expolosive not always anger but in frusteration and takes it out on me....i dont know what to think or do!!!Help me!!!!!
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (2 November 2008):
 If he was cheated on by his ex, then it's possible that he's worried about loosing you in the same situation, loosing you at all. Even if it didn't happen in his relationship 4 years ago, he probably gets angry because it's the best way he can communicate when he's feeling like this. He may fear loosing you to another guy, and doesn't want that to happen, that feeling may turn into anger that you would be lost to another guy. All you have to do is reusure him, let him know you're not going anywhere. Maybe have a talk with him about how you're feeling, and how he's feeling, and get it all worked out.
Hope everything turns out okay.
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