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writes:Why my man is still lying to me about having any contact with his ex?When I was living in the project a sexy man was living in front off me with his woman, but he always use to be watching me like he like to see me. He started calling me and we use to talk for hours wanting to see each other, but he could not because he was commited to his woman. They were together for ten years, but he told me that it was living in hell and the abuse while he was living with her. He told me that he is one fateful man when it comes to relationship. Is aint that nice to build you’re life with?Therefore, he moved out his woman house and lives with his mother in the same area, that was a bad idea. When we started seeing each other, we were living in different places, when I use to carry him home to his mother his woman use to come by and beg him to come home, but he told me from since he left her house they never had any thing again. He realizes that he wants to be with me in a relationship, so we went and got a house. Therefore, we are together for 3 months now.He is not working, because I am working in a company that I do not have time to come out to have lunch, or to see if he is behaving when he is in the road. When I cannot reach him on his cell phone my mind go wild, because when he go and visit his mother in a project the people around normally tells his ex to come down by his mother area. We had this conversation already, which he promises me that he will not lie to me about having any contact with his ex. I guess he lied, because I have proof that he still talking to her with phone bill, they talk for at least 2 minutes. However, I feel that it is enough time to say, “Meet me some place” or “I miss you alote” or “Can you come home, I forgive you”. I told him that if he has to talk to his ex and it is not dealing with his kids, I do not want to be in the relationship no more because it is not fair to me that I am true to him and he is lying to me.Nevertheless, I fell that when it comes to his ex I will be a loser and he will not be fateful with me, because when you are in a situation when you’re man been in a relationship for ten years and 4 kids together you can’t bet that. I do not know what to do with this situation, please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I think your deluded into thinking he should be faithful to you, you are a home wrecker and I am not just name calling that is what you both have done wrecked a home.
All relationships have problems but he is lacking in moral fibre if he has chosen to deal with any problems by looking outside of his relationship and he will realise this and go back to his partner and children. That is if the mother of his children isnt to upset and broken to let him back in and hopefully his children arent too emotionally damaged.
Do you think that if anyone could disrespect and hurt the mother of his 4 children this way, they'd think twice about leaving, cheating, hurting a bit of fun and thats what you are a bit of fun.
I think you need to reassess your situation look beyond your wants and think how can I do this to a family just because I find a man "sexy". If you still dont think you should end it then you deserve to be cheated on.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 I feel like you're in a situation that you're creating for yourself. He will probably always have contact with his ex because she is the mother of his children and if he's a decent person then he's going to want to have contact with his children.
The thing is you have to have that trust in him that he's in love with you and that he only wants to be with you. It sounds like you guys are serious because you have a house together and everything so I don't know why you can't trust him.
If you feel like the feeling isn't going to go away then the best thing you can do for yourself is leave the relationship, it probably won't get better.
Unfortunately, that's what you get when you become involved with a man who has children from a previous relationship. It can be hard but a strong connection can work through it.
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reader, denver  +, writes (11 June 2009):
Hey the guy has kids with his ex ,he has to talk to her about the kids find out about school. Can just forget about the kids
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