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writes:I’m leaving in a month to go to South America for a year... but can’t stop thinking about this guy.As I was only just a few months out of a long relationship that ended quite badly when we met I wasn’t interested in anything serious, so i suggested we be "fuck buddies".It was great at first but he got drunk one night and told me he liked me more than that and asked me out. I said no because I knew Id be leaving in a few months and I still didn’t want another relationship and we hung out together loads anyway so I didn’t see any need to change things.We continued on as before but I have to admit I treated him quite badly sometimes and he was always brilliant to me. He did however sometimes complain that he often wondered if I even liked him at all and that it was clear that I certainly didn’t like him as much as he liked me. Looking back now I know I only acted the way I did because I was trying to stop myself from liking him too much because I knew I was going to have to leave and would miss him.During college we lived quite close to one another but now Iv moved home, I miss him quite a bit. I still go down visit him and other friends weekly. During my last visit he told me he liked me more than any other girl before and that he had very strong feelings for me. I was quite shocked by this because he comes across as a bit of playboy and I know he has been with lots of girls much hotter than me!When I said that he told me that those other girls were just a bit of skirt but that I was smart and fun to be around.I apologised to him for the way I had acted before and explained why I was like that, so I thought things were ok.But later when I said something about when I return from my travels he kinda dismissed the thought of us still being friends when I return…..but before xmas it was him that brought up the subject of keeping in contact while I was away and asked me for my email address. So now I’m confused and very upset, I know things won't be the same but I'd like to think we could still be friends, especially if it's my personality that makes me different from the other girls… wouldn’t I make a good friend?Why is he sending me all these mixed signals? and any suggestions on coping with missing him when I’m gone?
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reader, Amy2007x  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Well you can't really blame him from dismissing you as a friend, He is mad about you! and he is probs suffering seeing you and knowing that he cant have you, it can be qjuite painful, i mean... maybe he take it any longer, you say that you visit, is this often? if so why cant a long distance realtionship could work, do you liek him? and he seems to be really mad about youx
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