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anonymous
writes:I met a guy 9 years older than me through a dating site two months ago. We seem to have a lot in common. I only met him once because we live 45minutes away from each other and usually varsity work keeps me busy. The day I was going to meet him he told me that he was broke because he has been borrowing people money and they have not paid him yet so instead of meeting me half way (in town), I went straight to his place that I didn't even know about the time I was going. He lives alone in his house, has three dogs and was very kind. Everyone in his neighbourhood seemed to love him he greets people and very good with kids. He is quite popular for the right reasons I would say and I loved that about him plus he is in the best shape and looks younger than his age and very handsome. The problem began when he asked me if I knew anyone who knows about websites so he could make one for him in order to start his own business. He asked the right person didn't he because my brother works with websites all the time. Making a website is expensive so I lied to my brother and told him that he is doing the website for me so that he would do it for free. Me and my boyfriend started having arguments about him not cooperating, like not sending the required information on time and not replying on time when my brother wanted to finish up fast because he is a busy person he also runs business and got other things to do than his website. After some information was sent my brother realised that my name is not part of the business so he requested me to tell the people to pay if they want their website done. I told him that I realised that we should not mix business and pleasure so he and his people should pay so we don't complicate things in future. He told me that I have changed and where is he going to get the money and that I have been mean to him but he will be ok. The next day I wished him goodluck with his test (he study part time) he said thanks and the next morning he wished me a blessed and lovely day. So we started talking in the morning only two or three texts for each day. so I got tired of that and I told him that I miss our old conversation and I miss him too. We argued again he told me I can't miss someone that I am always mean to and that lately ive been mistreating him. So I sent him the longest text ever about six pages of what has been happening in my life and apologising for getting angry with him and told him that I loved him and that I am crazy about him and sometimes I lose control because im emotionally connected to him. He read the text and after that ignored me. He has been ignoring me for two days now so last night I got angry then I blocked and deleted his number now I realise I still want him. What do I do? Luckily his number is still in my phone from some messages he sent me some time ago. What can I do to get him back and to make him work for our relationship because so far he has been relaxing he never even took me out for romantic dinner or kissed me only a hug and that is it. Not that there is anything wrong with that I want more from him and I am getting nothing. Why is he ignoring me and what do I do to win him completely?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 April 2016):
 Sweetie I really don't think that he has an interest in you romantically. It sounds like he is using you to get his website up and running, then when you ask him to pay he is blaming you. Please be careful as this man does not sound like a good man for you. Apologize to your brother for lying and maybe even tell him the situation you are in and allow him to guide you, or maybe your mum or dad. Good luck.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (29 April 2016):
 I have a feeling this won't work out...he's been borrowing money and not repaying people...red flag! Then there's this issue with the website...you sent him a text proclaiming love etc and he hasn't replied. I'd say drop it. Don't text, don't call. If he's interested, I suppose he'll reach out. But I doubt he has your best interests at heart. Meanwhile, move on with your life.
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reader, LizBetty  +, writes (29 April 2016):
 I dont think you will need him back,because he is just after what he will gain from you and not the friendship. That's why he dont want to understand things with you. Just forget him and move on, sure if he wants you, he wil reach you. But try unblocking him
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