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writes: I broke up with my bf 2days ago, for all those lies he comitted towards me with a reason that he dont want to lose me but all i can decide for that time is to break up my relationship with him,it hurts me so much for i did love him but i dont want to be a fool out of love. a day after my break up with him is such a gloomy day for me i wanted to hear from him but my mind told me not to call or text him so that the relationship will end this way, I kept my self busy for that day and promise to make myself busy for long till i can get over him. The next morning after our break up he called me up and i wasnt expecting a call from him but i tend to be ok and i treated him nicely,he asked how am i and i told him that im ok,then i diverted the talk with regards to his car accessories problem for he left his car to me so that i could use it for my work. then after a while he asked me what did i still remember aside from his car's problem his pointing out the thing that had happened between us i kept silent i dont know what to say,he kept on asking and i just laugh, then we chatted for awhile bout our works and after we hang up the phone go back to work. my question goes this way, why is he calling me still a day after our break up? whys is he asking me if i did still remember what had happened between us? for what? i wanted to give him space for him to think everything bout us, but why did he call me up immediately? please help me to clear up everything....an advice especially from you guys...thanks a lot
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Well, it's only been two days. And since you broke up with him, it's only natural that he's still pining for you. It happens in every broken relationship, so I wouldn't worry about it.
So far you are doing the right thing trying to get over him. If you have decided that THIS IS REALLY IT, then there's no reason for you to contact him except to talk about his car. You ARE planning to return it, right? (Hint, hint: yes).
At the same time, however, if you're asking WHY he's calling you even though you've apparently decided that THIS IS IT, you must be wanting some validation as to his feelings for you. Are you secretly hoping that you guys will get back together and that he'll pull all the stops to get your forgiveness?
While I admit, it's a fun fantasy and it makes us feel special when a guy still loves us, you have to decide whether you really WANT to continue a relationship with this guy or not. Dragging it longer for the sake of knowing that he's pining for you is unfair.
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