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writes:Why is he everywhere i go! Honestly I called out a hand man in the summer he dragged the job out as long as possible. Now i seen to "bump into him on my street almost everyday sometimes even 2x. Like I know I can almost write it off as he has other jobs in the area, but with no van or tools at hand? What's he doing? Please tell me am just playing this bigger than it is, today an example I was walking down the street with my kids, I got my house and he was right behind me, he stopped outside and I looked out my window and he was just standing there for 2mins then went on his way. Someone advise me here. Please! Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (11 December 2014):
 Depending on the threat level, I wouldn't confront him just yet. Instead I'd start gathering evidence. Keep a log of all your encounters; dates, times, locations, along with the names of those who were with you (witnesses). If there is a predictable pattern to his behaviour, besides the fact that he keeps showing up (and a log might help you see one if you haven't already) you could arrange for a friend or relative (someone he doesn't know and won't connect to you) to secretly photograph him. Get a clear picture that can be used to identify him and have others with you in the picture to show proximity. Once accused, he may go on the attack and try to convince authorities it's you stalking him, so photos of him in front of your home, your work or other places associated with you that he has no reason to be at or near are helpful too. If he often appears outside your window at a certain time of day, have your camera handy and ready to go before opening your blinds or door or whatever. If would be ideal if he didn't see you doing this but once you've accumulated enough evidence it could be useful if he does.Allow him to underestimate you ONLY to the degree that it gives him more opportunity to incriminate himself, but not to the degree that he considers you an ideal target for something worse.Inform family and friends what's been going on - do NOT isolate yourself - but make it CLEAR to everyone that they are not to act until YOU'RE ready. You could also contact police (not 999, but the local number), and maybe this should be the first step, to find out how they would handle this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2014): I thought this might have been a coincidence you bumping into him so many times, but then when you mentioned he was "standing there for 2 minutes when you looked out YOUR window" the alarm bells went off!This guy is stalking you! I agree with Mima, you should question him. Ask him what he is doing? Or why he is there? He might be trying to hurt you so I would definitely go to the police before it's too late. You never know, he could be a nut case.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2014): Very creepy. I would report this to the police, not that they will do anything about it most likely unfortunately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2014): Dear Anonymous, I agree with the other adviser. However, I suggest a more settle way. Alert the police of your suspicion, lock your doors, and be sure to keep some protection with you at all times. Your life is too valuable.
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reader, mima  +, writes (10 December 2014):
 Whow! I don't really trust the two minutes standing by your yard. He might be some ill wisher. You can't be too careful these days. Perhaps it is just coincdence that you often meet. Worse case, he loves you and is stalking you or worst case he is planning to hurt you. In ur shoes, I would stop and ask him loudly but informally "hi! Are you kinda stalking me?" And will make sure a number of people around hear that.Get some security as soon as possible.
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