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writes:I been in 3 yrs long distant relationship with this guy. He wasn't doing well in my country and left to go back to his own country. I visited him two times. we live half the planet away. it took 18 hrs to fly to him. We even plan to apply for work visa for me to go there. Actually I also cant bear to leave my family.so was in a dilemna stage too.what happened was he suddenly changed his attitude, from being positive that things will turn out well ..to being negative..and he said deep in his heart, he thinks it would be best that i live in my country and find a local bfHe wants what is best for me..i couldnt take it. He was betraying my trust and our plan for the futureHe hurt me soo deep..I ask him do you still love me? he said yes. but...this is what's best for me because it would be unfair to me to leave my everything and come live with him. Is he telling the truth ? what is he thinking? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 He probably is being honest with you, he saw that it would be hard for you to leave your family behind and all that you have ever known and just move to a new country where you don't know anyone. Therefore he is probably just trying to protect you by telling you that it would be much simpler of you both just went your separate ways. I know that you love him but it would be difficult being so far away from home and everything foreign to you. Not knowing anybody or having any friends it would be difficult on the both of you. Off course it is a decision for you to make. So if it is what you want well then tell him that and see what he says.
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