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writes:Just as I was having the most spectacular day, my friend (guy) MSN's me saying we can no longer interact over MSN and of course, that ruined my day. I didn't want to get emotional over It 'cause I knew that wouldn't change anything. I kept needling him for his rational motive and he finally came out and told me. He said It was because "she" found out. For some reason his girlfriend always had it in for me and now I think she's had It up to here with me because I guess she thought I was some "man stealer", but truly, that isn't the case at all. But I don't see how I was a threat to her in any way? I'm not that kind of a person. So now I lost my best friend in the world... If It's okay to say that. . That dude was the bomb in my eyes! I don't want to ramble on, so here's my question:Why would he do that so unexpectedly? We go back some time now and just like that give it all up for... I don't even know for sure. ?:/ I'm just still puzzled at the situation... so, hopefully someone here could give me some closure on why he would do that.Should I write back to him or wait until he says something? If I should write back, any clue on what I should say..?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Obviously the girlfriend are having insecurities about him & you.
Sometimes those friends of the opposite sex are not "just" friends, they want more then friendship. Other times they know more about the relationship and the trouble then the GF.
It seems like he is serious about this girl, all you can do is wish him good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 July 2010):
Push came to shove, I'm afraid. And when that happens, the girlfriend wins. If she doesn't, then the relationship is effectively over. For the sake of his relationship, he did the right thing. This girl clearly did not know that you and he were talking, which means he was hiding it. You can't hide a friendship like this without it coming across as suspicious. She got suspicious, and made him choose. He chose her. And since she is his girlfriend and he loves her, that was the right choice for their relationship. Basically, he did it to save his relationship.
She was insecure, she told him to stop contacting you, and she won. I'm afraid that's your closure. It's nothing personal towards you from him at all. Don't wait around for him to contact you, and if he does, don't contact him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): The only reason why you feel this way is because, you probably have feelings for this guy. He did the right thing by breaking contact with you if you truly wishes to keep the relationship with his gf in tact AND if he truly loves her. The fact that you are getting "emotional" about it proves that his gf is right about her inclinations about you. Yeah...people get sad over friendships, but I think you care more about this guy than just as a friend. Besides, if you had a boyfriend you really loved, you would probably have an issue with him keeping in contact with female friends who seem to be overly emotional or interested in the friendship. I applaud your friend and I wish more men and women would have the courage to let these so called "friends" for the sake of saving a relationship that is worthwhile.
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